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I was thinking of printing this out and give a copy to BIL and SIL who are convinced that STBXH is having a MLC. They told their father about MLC, and his reaction was "no way, my son (= STBX) is only 37!". Maybe I should give this to FIL. But honestly, now I do not really have much energy try to fix anything... I think my door, which was wide open throughout the past year, is closing now the half way...
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just wanted to bump this up to the front. ***love this thread**** <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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It's quite interesting that I've heard this somewhere that midlife crisis usually last 2-5 years since the first "bomb" was dropped - my WH mentioned of D word in Jan 2004, and was already exhibiting a lot of signs of MLC in late 2003, so it's been 2 full years. I did not really think about it but IF WH is to come out of the fog (although right now in my mind he is still in the fog), it did take him the typical time required.
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This IS the alien script!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
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BS-45 me
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DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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this is great! I thought about emailing all of my friends with it!RMFAO
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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bump <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Oh thank you Pep....I've NEVER SEEN this....I LOVED it... MLC????....My H was only 33 when he had his affair....I wonder if that's good or bad???....  not2fun
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Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Wow, if I didn't know any better I'd swear this is from Matt Groening's "Love is Hell". Just brilliant.
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I think what is funny about this is that even though it aptly describes every affairee, aged 25 to 65, it is called "mid life crisis" when applied to someone 35-40.  I think its cute and trendy to say "midlife crisis" but I put it in the same category as "soul mates," "closure" "need some space" and other popular urban myths.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Wow! the WAYWARDS DO HAVE A HANDBOOK!!!
It is def sad but true.
What does the last chapter say? I am curious about that. If I were to guess, it would be about how to deal with the extreme guilt, grief, and sadness felt after you realize you totally destroyed a once good marriage, lost the true love of your life, ruined the childhood and adulthood of your kids, and threw everything away for a lousy piece of azz.
Change happens by listening and then starting a dialogue with the people who are doing something you don't believe is right. ~Jane Goodall
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Personally, I think since this must be a book that has sold alot, if it is in the "for dummies" series...
That WE, the BS of MB should sue in a class action lawsuit because it TEACHES how to EMOTIONALLY ABUSE your betrayed spouse.
I for one, am not at all impressed a book teaches how to gaslight your spouse. And how to break them down mentally.
Anybody feel like suing?
Change happens by listening and then starting a dialogue with the people who are doing something you don't believe is right. ~Jane Goodall
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Jeez my H must have read this! They think they are so unique, all the same - a sad shower of pitiful selfish gobshites.
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Personally, I think since this must be a book that has sold alot, if it is in the "for dummies" series...
That WE, the BS of MB should sue in a class action lawsuit because it TEACHES how to EMOTIONALLY ABUSE your betrayed spouse.
I for one, am not at all impressed a book teaches how to gaslight your spouse. And how to break them down mentally.
Anybody feel like suing? It isn't a real book. It's a good spoof though, isn't it? It really COULD be the book that midlife dummies read.
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His PA 2003-2006
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This should just be pinned... to the foreheads of WSs....
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
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