Well Cheeeeeeers!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Confused(Kathy) and Jennifer****CHEEERS*****!!! New Beginnings!!!!!

My heart is truly lifted!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Thank you my friends!!!!!

Kathy

Thankyou...Kathy! You are a true inspiration to others here, that are in pain!

I recommended this thread to the other poster I mentioned before. I really hope she'll check it out, so she knows she's not alone!

Hope you had a great, new day! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Jennifer

Today has been a great day! Very busy.

First thing this morning I got a voice mail from WH.

I had sent him an email last night saying "Please fax your business info to my work fax so I can do the taxes. As I told you last week, but you apparently didn't listen, there are no more chances."

He launched into "I will sign the house over to you, and the new car. I will only cover these things (financially) for a little while. There's something down inside you I always knew was there.....you are a BIT3H. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I have been treated better in the last few years by someone else (OW) than you have ever treated me." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

"I love you, but I guess that's because we've been together so long. F#%K YOU."

That's a compact version of what he said.

I'm putting it on tape so I can give it to the lawyer. I especially wanted the part where he is signing the house over to me.

This afternoon he called and apologized via voicemail. Told me not to get a lawyer because they will take two thirds of our property. We can divide it up ourselves - but we need to talk about it first.

He is out of his mind!!!! I hope he and OW have a long and happy life together. They deserve each other.

As for me, I am yet UnMoved. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Kathy

I was just going to ask, if you were still UnMoved, by his comment. And as far as being treated "better" the last few years...YEAH RIGHT! That's why he's been begging to work it out with you! She, (OW) is just his backup plan. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Sounds like he is trying to use the property thing as a way to get his foot back in the door, to talk to you. Well, stay strong and UNMOVED! Talk is cheap, (and so is OW!!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Glad you had a good day!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Jennifer

Hi Jennifer.....

His manipulation tactics are becoming frantic. He KNOWS he has no control over me anymore.

I told one girl at work (jokingly) "WH left a voicemail and apologized! I think I'll give him another chance!"

NOT!!!!!!!!! Now it's a big joke about my "inner-b!&ch" and "He's never been more attractive! I've never wanted him more!" NOT!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Truth is, I'm one of the nicest people you'd ever want to meet. A little too laid back at times, but I'm coming out of that.

BUT SOOOOOO MUCH STRONGER NOW. (I'm not blowing my own horn....it's been a lot of work to get here) I will not back down.

But it really is sad to see WH come down to name calling, and threats.

All I really want to say to him is "Just sign the papers. This story is over."

I remain UnMoved.

It's a good day. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Kathy

Gosh, I think I would meet with him, and get him to put it in writing that he will sign the house over to you - while he is still MOVED.

LOL, Glad to see that you can keep the humor, during all this!

And that comment he made:

"I love you, but I guess that's because we've been together for so long. F*96K YOU!"

You: "Yes, we have been together, TOO long, that's why the bus must stop here! Now GET OFF my bus!!!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

And if he calls you the B word again, just tell him "he ain't seen NOTHING yet!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Yes, it is sad when it gets to this point. But it will keep getting better! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Your reply: "No thanks, been there done that"
LOL! He sure is a charmer!!! He doesn't sell used cars does he?

Hey, Confused...you missed our **cheer** last night, to "New Beginnings"! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

She's definately on the path to broader horizons!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />"clink" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
to UnMoved the woman who knows who she is, where she is going...may she have a blast getting there...she earned it!

**Clink**, I second that!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Jennifer, Confused and Believer...

**Clink*** <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Sorry I didn't get in on that one.....

Had an early night last night. Was up til the wee hours the night before posting with several others to "losttiger" whose WH was having another A, and she could not see how she could go on without her H. She was talking suicide.

It's so hard to explain how I got to this point from where she is right now. But I know I had to "go thru the fire".

Back during the time in the "fire" I would have given anything to get WH back. And probably if I had followed the MB principles more closely, it would have happened.

But I took WH at his word.....knowing that he was not the same man I once knew to be the most honest person I had ever met. I 'hoped' he would change.....

But he liked riding that fence too much. He became an expert liar and a supreme manipulator. (He's always been a manipulator, but I was in a fog of my own and couldn't see it.)

Time and WAKING UP TO REALITY have changed my views, and my vision.

My DD told me "you'll never let anyone treat you like that again....because now you know what it is when you see it".

I've changed (and I thank God that I have, and that the intense feelings naturally subside over time). And I don't even have to put my reading glasses on to see it!

CHEERS!!!! HERE'S TO NEW BEGINNINGS.......A NEW DAY.....(and my new "inner b!tch)!!!!

Kathy

***CHEERS***, again, to your "New Beginnings, New Days, AND...your New Inner...SELF!!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Don't go changing your name again. I like UnMoved!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

And if being a B**** means living a full, healthy, happy, stable, productive, secure and painfree existance, then "Here's to ALL the B****'s out there, that had to do what they HAD to do!!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> **CLINK**CLINK** and **CLINK**!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

How's your day, today? Good, I hope! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey Jennifer....

Good day today, too!!!

Had my nails done, did some grocery shopping, now I'm fixing some dinner/lunch. Tonight I'm going to a friends' surprise birthday party. Should be fun!

Yeah, my "Inner B" self is getting a little wound up. WH called DS yesterday and called me names. Not nice ones either. He's now threatening to take everything, and leave me with nothing! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

He told DS how horribly I'm treating him. Thing is, I don't know where he comes up with that.....I haven't even talked to him.

WHATEVER!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Just about have my papers all filled out. I'm planning on taking them to the lawyers' office on Monday.

I think WH is bipolar......or has split personalities. Hope he and his co-dependant OW have a great life! When she knows she's got him for good, her "inner B" (real self) will come out. Don't you just know it!

****CHEERS*****HERE'S TO GOOD FRIENDS******(CLINK!!CLINK!!)

Kathy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Well, I'm glad you had another good day, and have remained unmoved, by his comments to your DS.

And shouldn't he be HAPPY, right about now? He will now have the freedom to be the Prince Charming to his new flame! Why isn't he celebrating? HMMM...could it be his new Cinderella has ALREADY found the "Inner B" within her self? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I mean, the way he is SOOO emotional about you, at the moment, can't be too romantic for her! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Well, it's good to know you are still unmoved by him, and still moving forward!! Keep it up. You're definately on the way to greener pastures! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'm sure it can't be too romantic for either one of them.

But, FYI, WH and OW have been at it for 5 years (or more, the time span has been extended several times by WH). But he continues with the postulations that OW is a moral and wonderful woman.

Indeed......he jumped right to her defense when she was pi$$ed off saying that I was harrassing her on the phone day and night! LIKE I'D EVEN WASTE MY TIME!!!!!

This was my final straw.

He has always (and not quietly) taken the side of other people against myself and our children. We have always been the last people he has believed - no matter the situation.

You would think that we were all psychotic liars!!! When nothing could be further from the truth.

But then, WH has always had a somewhat twisted view of reality. I am tired of being on the short end of that stick. When I think of the emotional abuse.....and how I allowed it all these years, thinking I was happy.

Sorry, I digress.

Anywhooooo......I wish them well. Well away from me.

And yet I am UnMoved!

Kathy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

OW, Moral and Wonderful??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> How in the world can he explain THAT?? Especially the "moral" part! Yeah, I definately would say that your WH does have a twisted view of reality!

Well, he will now be HER problem, FULLTIME! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> You, on the other hand, are now going to be free from this BS (and I don't mean "Betrayed Spouse <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />...").

Well, you know, WH DID say that he has been treated better in the last few years by "someone else" (OW) that he has EVER been treated by me. What BS!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

It's a miracle that he didn't cheat on me much earlier in our M, and many times! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> (and who knows? He may have)

****CLINK******HERE'S TO FULL TIME******

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

***CLINK*** TO FULLTIME!! May their lives be FULL, (of Sh#t), ALL of the time <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />... And may she be able to let that "Inner B" in her, to be set in FULL FORCE! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />