Hi Hurting,

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Hurting-
Didn't have a chance to post at the end of last week, but
suffice to say, I think you did FANTASTICALLY with the
whole court situation !
Glad you found out some positive news today.
Thanks for your support on my recent postings- will try to
update today.
Slammed

Thanks Slammed. I think I did ok to better than I expected thats for sure......

Good morning Hurting

How are things loking today? Is your DD still at home, or has she moved out?

Jean,

For now she is still here. My MIL talked to her and told her that this was it and she had better straighten up or she would be helping me move her out.

MIL and I talked and she convinced me to allow DD one more chance. But she did say this is it and I will personally hlp you move her out if anything like this happens again. So my MIL has been coming to the house when DD least expects it to make sure things are on the up and up.

So for now thigs are quiet and calm. I don't know if my MIL talking to DD helped but we shall see. DD came to me crying after her grandmother was done her aplogizing and saying it would never happen again. So we shall see what happens.... I know maybe I caved in , I just hope and pray she meant what she said.

I just don't have the energy to fight right now. My rollercoaster seems to be on a downward slope since last night. It's been awhile since I have felt this low and sad. I guess its to be expected though. My brain is overloaded with thoughts and questions again. But I know this will pass just like it always has. Take it one day at a time and just keep moving and breathing ......



Hurting

Well, hopefully a stern talking to from Grandma will help DD see the light. It is good that MIL is around to keep tabs on her.

How is DS handling the tension with DD? Have you and DS had a chance to talk about the moving in with WH thing?

Hi Hurting,

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I just don't have the energy to fight right now. My rollercoaster seems to be on a downward slope since last night. It's been awhile since I have felt this low and sad. I guess its to be expected though. My brain is overloaded with thoughts and questions again. But I know this will pass just like it always has. Take it one day at a time and just keep moving and breathing ......
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....that's it, Hurting..... the difference between 'then' and 'now' is that NOW you know it will 'pass' and that you will be OK....

...I would say that this is the kind of thing that would go under the category: wisdom acquired from life experiences....

...as a BS, I believe we have been given 'double servings' of it......

...during these times...I try to think of something I can do that 'I' would find ENJOYABLE....and what would that be for you?

Take care

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So far DS is and DD are getting along at least for now. We shall see.

Yes I t alked to DS and told him he will not move in with WH and the bimbo. I told him that he would be living with the OW not so much his dad because he is gone all week and that he would see him no more than he does now.

I let him know in no uncertain terms that I would never allow it to happen. I am his mother and my protecting him was my top priority.

He seemed to take it well and was content with the answers I gave him. I think he realizes moving there would not be really what he wants. So for now all things seem ok.....


Hurting

You have done your DS a great favor...you have given him an out. You have made the rule about where he will live without making him choose, and thereby rejecting one or the other of you. You have NOT made him choose sides. I'm sure DS is breathing a sigh of relief.

You just keep being strong for him...he can't always say what he wants or thinks because he cannot deny his dad or you, but he will feel pulled from both sides. Just be the bigger person and keep looking out for what is best for HIM, not OW, WH, or you when it comes to DS's well-being...

GOOD JOB!!!

Luna,

Your right we are learning from these trials and tribulations that this to will pass.

Right now all I want to do is sleep. I am so tired from working and having no time for me.

I think all of the emotion of the last few days has just done me in. Between mediation and the weekend stuff with the kids has been a downer for sure.

I am looking forward to my little weekend trip with DS in a few weeks. It will be a wonderful thing to just get away from here. I need that bad.

I will be ok I just have to gather my strength again and I will....


Hurting

Thank you Still.

I know I did the right thing. DS'S safty and well being is the most important thing right now. I know living with his father and the bimbo is not a good place for him.

It would have been different if WH lived by himsself and had a job were he was home daily for DS and DS really wanted to be there. But I know this was all about WH making the weekend fun and allowing things to happen that should not have. The fun would have ended in time and life would have been just like here rules and not always getting what he wants.

Hurting

Hi Hurting,
I'm glad DS talked and decided it wasn't a good idea.
You're telling him he wouldn't be seeing WH more than he does now is what clicked with him. Good job.

I hope DD gets it together. Did you give her an ultimadum.
I'm afraid if she doesn't get a job/school.... something, some goal she is gonna sink, and she will be a continual problem at home. It sounds like the small crowd she is hanging with, will not be much of a motivation for good goals. A few homeless, probably kicked out of thier homes for the same reason you were going to kick her out for.
Your home is not a flop house for irresponsible young adults. If you catch them there again without your permission, I would file a trespassing charge on them.

Lady

Lady.

As far as the people who DD let sneak into my house were told that if they were caught here again the police would be called and they would be charged with trespassing.

I hope the talk with DS put this to rest as far as living with his father goes. But who knows because I would be willing to bet when DS is with him the c onverstaion will come up again and who knows what WH will say.

Without saying to much there will probably be some hard feelings and fireworks within the next few days due to my attorney visit. So I am preparing myself for the worst right now. I have no idea how WH will react.

Hurting

Good Morning,

The teen years are very trying aren't they. The girls especially, will try to take over the home. We need some extra grace and miraculous direction in these years. My DD20 tells me now, that her brother is no where near as bad as she was in the teen years.

As far as the attorney visit, I'm sure you are doing the right thing.

Lady

Lady,

I am sure I did the right thing with the attorney visit. WH needs to see that his actions by his allowing DS to do that things that are not right have consequences.

My biggest worry is WH will spin this to DS trying to make it look like I am trying to keep him away from him. That is so far from the truth, I want DS to see his dad I just want WH to be responsible and not put DS in a dangerous postition. Allowing him to drive that car was irresponsible and against the law and he needs to see this.

So now I just have to prepare for the fallout which I know will come....


Hurting

Yes...I was shocked by that too. That was not cool! You're only protecting DS.

I know Lady and protecting him is my main concern now.

I believe WH will see this as munipulation on my part. But I can't worry over that right now.....

Mimi,

Did you read my mediation story.... I really would like your input on how you think I did.... Hope you had a nice break too....


Hurting

Hurting:

I've been so BUSY and haven't had time to catch up on what's happening with you...Sorry...I'll get back with you real soon...

Ready for IDOL tonight?

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Well I have to work tonight but I will be tapeing it .....

its ok I understand your busy , just whenever ya get a chance .....


Hurting

Hurting-
I think you handled things with DS very well, and hope he
will view it as exactly what it was- you protecting him
from the manipulations of WH, and for his own good.
Hope things will also turn around with DD. Have you
thought of requiring her to either get a job or start
school as a condition of remaining in your home ?

Hope you won't have any big fallout to deal with-

No big changes here, although WH has been sticking close
to home and he's not been getting the usual constant calls
from OW, so I'm wondering what's up. Will update my post-
Slammed