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i have this new bf and he really gets on my nerves. he is always acting like a kid and wants to be under my feet. remind you he is 28. what should i do?
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I know you know that this is a Marriage Builders site.
Tell us more about why you are here tonignt.
Is this really ONLY about your boyfriend?
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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no not really.. i see everything my mom is going through and i dont want to go through it too.. but he really does get on my nerves... and thats why i a asking you guys for help because you all give my mom good advice and i think you all can help me 2. i am only 19, no job but looking... i feel that if i keep this bf that i will lose everything and i dont need that.. i want the best for me and my mom.. should i do whats right and leave my bf so i can do better and find someone that is not as childish or just go and do the things i need to do to get my life together ad leave all the guys alone... help please...
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You are going through a rough time right now. I think I would stop seeing the guy and wait for someone that is better for you.
If you have a gut feeling that you will lose everything, you better pay attention. Those feelings are usually right on.
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Hi there,
Welcome to MB. We love your mom here on MB.
As a mom of a teens, I would tell you 19 is pretty young to be having such a serious boyfriend.
As a woman who got married when she was 18, I would still say that is pretty young to be thinking about such a serious boyfriend.
Let me also say, that a 9 year difference in ages is an awful lot at this age. It makes no sense but in 20 years the difference is not as much. You two are in different places completely.
This is just my opinon, but I think that maybe you ought to drop the boyfriend and work on you for a bit. Make you your priority. Are you in college? Trade school? Maybe focus on making yourself into the best young woman you can be.
Later, when you have yourself together you can start dating someone else.
I hope the best for you.
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ty believer, but how should i go about breaking up with him.. he told me and my mom that he bought me clothes and a 2006 naviagator and i dont want to hurt his feelings because i know how it is to be hurt..
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I agree. Go with your gut feeling.
And you're 19. TRUST ME, there is plenty of time for guys. Have fun now. You have a lot of healing of your own to do.
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Honey, something is not right if he is buying you expensive gifts like that. You just call and say "I can no longer see you." He is an adult, he can deal with it.
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hurtin, he is a grown man and will be able to handle it. He shouldn't be dating a 19 year old anyway. Agree with moveforward, make you your priority and focus on your future. Right now is a key crossroads in your life and a serious relationship, that probably won't work out, is just a diversion. Work hard now and the benefits will be great. Take care, young lady. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ty gouys... i agree with you all i will do that.. we havent even been dating a month much less havent even known each other for a month..
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then definitely adios this guy and get yourself a plan to work on you.
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ty gouys... i agree with you all i will do that.. we havent even been dating a month much less havent even known each other for a month.. good girl! Guys that old who date teenagers and promise big presents are just trying to get laid. He can't get a woman his own age, so he goes after you younger girls. Give him the boot and tell him this booty call isn't available!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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i agree but what so i say to him.. i am not really good with words.. sometimes when i say something it comes out the wrng way.. i dont know how to do it..
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Just say: "I am sorry but I can't see you anymore. You are way too old for me."
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Give him the boot and tell him this booty call isn't available! I gotta get me some of this spunk! That completely cracked me up. My mom is a few years older than you,ML, and I can never imagine her saying that. Love it!!
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that might work but i might want to write him a letter... that way i can say what i want to but not be rude about it... that is the only way i am going to be able to do it..
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That will work just fine and sounds like an excellent idea.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ty... you guys are alot of help...
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Give him the boot and tell him this booty call isn't available! I gotta get me some of this spunk! That completely cracked me up. My mom is a few years older than you,ML, and I can never imagine her saying that. Love it!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Just say: "I am sorry but I can't see you anymore. You are way too old for me." Agree with MelodyLane - you aren't a Ho so don't act like one. He wants to screw you and is offering inducements to do so.
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