I'm not going to listen to anything her mom has to say, her whole life is full of lies. She's been lieing to her own daughters since they were born. After my mother in laws divorce she did not want her daughters contacting him or him being a part of there lives at all, she thretend him with back child support (that she didn't even ask her lawer for) if he tried to contact his daughters, She told her oldest that he molested her when she was a little girl. (they never did prove any of that when investagated) When my wife finally did contact her dad and went out to see him for a couple of months he showed her all the birthday cards and Christmas cards he had sent them that my mother in law returned to him. He had send money and all. The lady has huge problems. I'm suprised my wife could treat me as good as she did when we were married. You would think after seeing all her mother has done she would turn out like that. Thank God we don't all turn out like our parents in the end.

What about back in May when you two almost divorced then too because when you had a friend over from work and you were all drunk, Then you and her went in the other room and after you were done you passed out after drinking a half a bottle of rum and when you woke up 5 hours later he was still there sitting next to her on the sofa and playing some video game. I remember you said you went in the bathroom and heard them kissing. Didn't she confess to kissing him later on because she felt bad because he hadn't been with someone in 2 years?

How could this happen right in front of you in your own house and you not expect that she didn't cheat on you with her exboyfriend?

And why are you snooping through her diary? That's breaking the marital bond of trust as well, you're no better than she is. *********EDIT************

Whoa, I feel a prankster coming on.

If this is true mikey, you need to tell the whole truth. We are not here to judge you, but to help you and your marriage.

wonderland are you like following me around sites or something. Do you not have anything else better to do then go to every site I post something on.

and yes it is true, no I am not keeping the truth from anyone, I figured my post was long enough as it was, didn't feel like I needed to add an whole other story in there.

I'm sorry this person is following you around. You have enough trouble without someone adding to it. Do you know this person?

I don't know, I was on female first fourm and had someone replying making fun of me saying this was better than Jerry Springer and stuff like that. So I got off of there and came to this from another member that told me about the site.

Just put them on ignore and that should take care of them

I had called my wife again this morning, she's getting really bored at her aunt and uncles place out in the country, she's thinking of patching things up with her mom so she can come back and live here I guess, I asked her what she had thought about me and her and she said she loves me and misses me like crazy, when I asked her if she was going to object she just said she's thinking about alot of stuff and "Maybe" I guess it's just the fact that I am going back to New York and she figures my parents and friends would think I'm nuts if we got back together while I was up there. Who knows she's gonna call back later tonight I guess.

wonderland2k1


This is a SUPPORT site!!!!

I'm sure he will add to his story and fill in the blanks where and when HE sees fit!!

If you find yourself unable to support, advise, or CONSTRUCTIVELY suggest, please find a forum that better suits your needs.

well mikey,
sounds like you have lots of people telling you what they think is best for you (and im sure most of them have good intentions).
like anything in life though, it is YOU and HER that have to live with your choices. Look inside yourself and decide for yourself if she is hurting you too many times, if you dont want her or that type of person in your life. people hurt people even if they love them. learning what YOU want will help you make it over the humps and stay together if that is what you choose to do.
forget friends, family, even us on this board, and look in your soul. If you see your wife there, then do what you can to keep her there.

as i said before, I had called her yesterday morning, she sounded really happy to hear from me and her aunt even came in the room and said "It doesn't sound like 2 people that are about to get a divorce talking in here, why don't you just go home say your sorry and get out of your mom's house." well I had gotten off the phone with her after talking to her for about an hour. She told me she was going to call back later that night and talk to her mom about posibably coming back home and that when she was done talking to her mom she whould ask for me. This never happend. BUT her friend Jessica who she had been out with the night of this whole mess had called looking for Carrie. I guess she did not know that she had got kicked out and was living with her family 2 hours away. My mother in law had asked if she wanted to talk to me to find out what was going on. I told her the whole story of what happend that weekend and after she had left the bar. I even told her I knew she asked my wife to kiss her ex b/f. Jessica was like "OMG I was just kidding, I didn't think she would actully do it, I just askekd her that one time and that was it"

We contuned to talk about her side of the story. I told her that Carrie had told me she did kiss Russell after she asked her to and that it was just a small peck on the lips. Jessica had said "Which time???" and I had asked her "What do you mean, was it more than one time???" and she had replyed "Yes they did just give a quick peck the first time but then after that she made out with him for about a min and a half." I was very pissed to hear this information.

After getting off the phone with my wife's friend Jessica I had called her back at about 7:30 seein as at this point she had no intention of calling her mom to patch things up. We started to talk and she told me that after I got off the phone with her that her aunt had said "He needs to get his happy little [censored] up here to pick you up and you guys just need to get away from your mom and go live on your own, even if it means you have to live on welfare for a while"

I had asked her what she had thought about us really getting back together, she told me "I don't know if we should be married, we were so much more happy before we got married" I then said "Before I can even consider what we are talking about I need to ask you something and this will be the very last time I ask you this question" she said ok.
I said "I need you to be 100% honest with me, Did You Make Out With Russell at all the 3 or 4 times you saw him?" she said "NO" I then asked "Did you guy do anything besides kissing" she said "NO" and then "And you didn't have sex with him at all" and she said "NO!"

I then asked her "Then why did your friend Jessica just call me?" and she got very upset at this point and said "I don't know why did she call you?!?" I told her that she had been wanting to know what was going on and that we had talked and she told me that you and russell were making out at the bar that night. She then told me "I've know Jessica since I was in Jr High and she's always lied, she's a liar and always will be" I then asked her "Why would she lie to me? she doesn't even know me" She got upset and I told her "I don't even know who to belive anymore" She got more upset and said "You just asked me to be 100% honest with you and I was"

Now she is telling me that she is just going to go up to Tenn. And live with her friend up there for a while and not even talk to anyone anymore. I really don't know who to belive anymore, I'm not sure if after all this I can belive my wife. She told me "I told you that it took me getting kicked out and us getting a divorce for me to wake up to what I was doing" But has she really woken up completly, and why when I called Saturday she's telling me she's thought of objecting to the divorce and now Tuesday she's telling me we were alot happier when we weren't married. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I don't even know anymore!!!

I guess this topic is over....

How old are you two?

I'm 26 and she's 25