BTE, sorry, I forgot it was for PMDD. I hear you aout little kids getting overwheleming at times. Maybe some date nights are in order <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Have you been O&H about the rubbing? These are good signals, good information you are getting! Maybe you could POJA better times instead of bedtime? Maybe in the mornings?

I wish we lived close by. Our girls are similar ages, I bet they'd have a blast together, and keep each other busy. Thanks again for the acting camp idea. The timing of the sleepaway camp this summer was too close to my brother's wedding, but it was a great idea, and we put both girls in another acting camp here. They are having so much fun.

Wow, it's been over a month since I posted last. I thought I would drop in and give a quick update. More like I am finding another reason not to start cleaning <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Let's see, July was busy for us. My youngest daughter turned 5, Dh and I celebrated our 6th anniversary, and my Aunt passed away. There were two trips to Mt. Pleasant South Carolina, a trip to Va to visit dh's family, stomach flu, two new cats, and I brought my dog back home from my Aunts.

Dh and I are doing pretty well together. We handled some pretty stressful events so wonderfully. I had never felt as close to him as I did then. When we were both tired and stressed to the max and we just laughed and held each other. I will have to post that story another time. Probably this weekend when he is working nights.

Although I felt so close to him during that time, it was hard afterwards. I guess I expected that feeling to remain, so strong, and it didn't. So I felt disconnected. It was me not him. I had to find that middle ground.

August proves to be just as busy. I start back to work Thurs. Aug 20th I start grad school again. 3 classes this semester. The girls start school Aug. 13.

That's really all that is going on.. Just living, one day at a time.

I enjoyed reading cwmi's thread yesterday. I learn a lot reading what my fellow MBers have to offer. In that spirit, I wanted to bump this thread. cwmi, jayne, cat, Soolee, Telly, OH, and luly come to mind. I think that there are a lot of similarities in our walks. It is very easy to get our focus thrown off course by the power struggle, by the LBs, that we think just should not be.

• A loved one LBing when we win at a board game
• A loved one LBing when we want to fix up unfinished parts in a house
• A loved one sneaking the thermostat way down until we can't sleep
• A loved one waking us up and LBing when we don't respond how they wish

And the list can go on and on and on. It meant a lot to me what LA shared in this thread about having a plan, letting go of the response, keeping the focus on what we are working on, instead of reacting, instead of following a loved one "down the rabbit hole" Using these LBs as signals that our loved ones are in pain, that we can look at our behavior and ask ourselves if we see LBs that we want to eliminate, too.

I am not posting this to say that I think anyone is doing a bad job or anything like that. Just sharing this because it was a great source of strength to me, one I wanted to share. If you're interested, I encourage you to begin at the beginning.

Also, anyone reading from the beginning who doesn't know BTE's story, BTE's H did get successfully to NC with the EA lady. And BTE also was successful making the changes she expressed wanting to make here.

bump for jayne