Get with your attorney NOW on that withdrawal, GF!

>I like aliens off balance.

I like mine smeared on toast.

This I don't quite understand....

How did your WW find out who your attorney is ???

I think that is exactly my lawyer's plan. I'll know more when I get to talk to her. I'm going to insist to her office that I speak to her before I get to the court house.

Cool, GF. Make sure your attorney knows about the govenment check your WW is misusing. If there's a chance to bring it up in the hearing, do it, pardner.

She didn't...my county has an online system where the lawyer offices can check to see if any thing has been filed. She checked the system this morning before she left for her luncheon and saw that it had just been submitted and signed at 11:40.

Needless to say, I'm somewhat dissappointed in your attorney. She should have been on this like white on rice. You retained her on Monday, and the filing isn't taking place until NOW?

As someone else advised, she had better step-it-up to gain a head start on your WW and quick too, else I'd fire her [censored].

Make sure she [attorney] knows you expect her to be in alignment with your strategy and also that she knows your WW is a coniving manipulative sly one dammit!

Jo

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This was so predictable it is almost funny, if it wasn't so sad.

And here we are, she [WW] tried but failed by engineering a BIG FIGHT last night, and when that failed has filed a bogus Domestic Protection Order against GF for gawd knows what. My guess is she is going to try to imply GF is mentally unstable, as she stated in an earlier convo with him over the phone from LV. And also GF shared with me that his WW stated to the police officers last night that " He[GF] is acting differently, and its creeping me out".

My Version of Differently = No Longer Acting Like Her Doormat

Jo

GF~ Great work... What fire fight this is...
I was thinking the same thing... Have her served at the court house when she shows up for the protection order hearing. Timing here is key... I would think that it would look better to the judge if she was served post protection order hearing, so to not look too aggressive.. Either way, awesome plan!

Okay, let's talk about tonight.
After you have ran threw all the land mines of today and did a great job of trading fire with her, it's time to jump in that fox hole and cover your @ss and protect your daughter.

I predict your WW will be looking for a fight tonight. I endorce the grandparents plan. This way if she is fogged over enough to come looking for you at the grandparents they will see the entire display of her actions...

I really think you need to be aloof and lay low tonight. If you got the protection order overturned and her served with the LS she needs time alone. Let her stew in her juices. There will be NO good times on fantasy island tonight baby!!!

I only endorse the grandparents plan IF you arent protected tonight thru your filing in court. If you get what you asked for, then I would go home and start setting up the bunkers. But, if things are left out in the open, I am with Dazed in the fact she will come home looking for a fight. And to set GF up.

So, hopefully GF comes back on and lets us know how things went at court. Then we can better know which route to take.

GF, no matter what happens, listen to UVA, Pep and others on the protection issue. It is obvious that she will do ANYTHING to get what she wants. So, get that digital recorder (a good one is under $100) and make sure you are never NOT taping when she is around.

And also...understand EVERY ONE of us made mistakes in our journey. We are not hitting on you because we were perfect. We are getting on you because this is war and you are going to have to get ahold of this. I know you dont understand a lot of this. We didnt either. But that is why you have us. We are your intel. We can guide you thru this. But yo uare going to have to take the fight to the enemy. Only YOU can fight this war.

Remember...she has no plan, no support like this. She has no idea what she is doing. sure, she THINKS she does. But she is gonna make a whole slew of mistakes. Be ready to take advantage of them.

Your marriage will be put on hold for a little while. But just check my post from a few days ago, when I laid out how this will go. Once she sees you standing up, she will begin to respect you. Once that happens, then your marriage may have a chance.

Right now, you are at war.

In His arms.

GF requested I post an update regarding his court session.

It did not go well. I can only give you fine folks a summary of what transpired, hopefully GF will post more detail soon.

Unbelievably, GF has a domestic order against him filed by his WW which the judge signed. This results in GF not being allowed in the marital home for two weeks at which time there is another hearing.

Something you all may need to know is that GF's WW has connections in the local legal/judicial community. From the account GF gave me from court today, the judge would not allow GF to talk but did listen with a sympathetic ear to his WW, who did not have an attorney present.

GF is devistated, and in complete dis-belief. I think shock is the correct term.

The word "unfair" just doesn't capture this injustice. His WW leaves for 5 days to LV to be with her affair partner and comes back only to have GF legally thrown out of the house. Completely despicable!

GF has said that this is one battle lost, not the war. His primary goal going forward is to ensure he maintains his rights as a parent, preferrably primary custody.

Jo

It breaks my heart to read this news...I don't understand...I am sitting here in shocked disbelief...This is the most horrifying miscarriage of justice that I have witnessed, I do believe, EVER...((((((((GOOD FATHER))))))))) YOU SHALL OVERCOME THIS!!!

Mrs. Wondering

I am very sorry!!!

I am personally very angry with GF's WW. I can't believe this type of miscarriage of justice is possible.

I happen to know GF in RL ... he is an intelligent, kind, gentle and caring young man and father, who wouldn't harm a fly. His screen name describes him perfectly because he lives for his daughter and her happiness.

This is not just wrong, this is all the way wrong.

Jo

I hope you'll keep reminding him of that, Resilient. I really believe it. There's no justice in what's happened, but I have faith that it'll turn around.

Jo...

Please tell him...gosh, I don't even have the words...I'm praying...I'm so sorry...

Where is he staying??? I am really worried...GF, Jo...can one of you please post an update? Or email me...just something...anything...I'm heartsick...as is Mr. W...

In Christ,

Mrs. W

Unfor2nately, I've seen something like this happen before - 2 my MIL.

Judge simply said at the beginning of the day "you're not going 2 like my judgements 2day, but that's 2 bad."

She being DV'd by her 2nd H, who succeeded in mortgaging the house she'd nearly paid off 2 a level she couldn't afford (she lost the house), and having the judge reduce her monthy spousal support 2 $180/mo. We've been taking care of her since.

When I was on a jury pool for a deadbeat parent, I told the judge that I couldn't be impartial in the case as described because of this incident.

My faith in our judicial system had re2rned some in the 10 years since that happened, but now I wonder if it's misplaced.

How can people be so evil, particularly with someone they've promised 2 cherish for their lifetime.

Hang in there, GF!

-ol' 2long

[color:"red"]3/29/06
GF said:[/color]



THIS is exactly why snooping needs to be done right away ... we need to really emphasize this FACT to all newbie BSs

don't care to snoop?

be prepared to be bulldozed and run over by the out-of-control selfish- bent-on destruction fogged out mean as hayul WS

[color:"red"] 2 weeks after GF wrote that he was reluctant to snoop .... he's OUT of his own home .... forced out by filthy adulterous lies about his character .... FOR GAWD'S SAKE PEOPLE DO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU

SNOOP SNOOP SNOOP ..... [/color]

Ok, so here's the update....

I got to be escorted by a sheriff around my house to get everything I need for the next two weeks in fifteen minutes. My wonderfull WW was nice enough to pack for me before I was allowed in the home.

Disappointed can not even come close to describing how I feel. Jo's representation of what happened was accurate; the judge cut my lawyer off, and asked my WW what she wanted to say. Neither me or my lawyer was allowed to state our case fully, the judge just said "the order stands"

The thing is, in my WW's statement, there is nothing there at all that indicated domestic abuse. She even states in black and white that I've never been violent or shown any violent tendancies.

Yet the judge signed it and wouldn't even concider turning it over.

Tonight is the first night since I left the Active Duty that I am having to spend away from my DD. It's eating both of us up...we held each other for 10 minutes crying on each other's shoulders before I had to go.

It all boils down to what happened last night. She "modified" the series of events, and basically made me out to be a "stalker" in my own home.

So, here's where I stand right now....exposure and asking my WW to take her conversation outside has caused me to be kicked out of my house.

Everyone that I exposed to ran to my wife and told her that I'm delusional...at least that's what she says...they did tell her that I had talked to them.

And asking her to take her affair conversation outside is what she used to call the cops.

It was these things that she put on her petition for a protection order...that I talked to so and so and so and so, and that I "wouldn't leave the bathroom, or let her close the spare-bedroom door"...she exagerated what I said when I exposed, and she out right lied about not leaving the bathroom and not allowing her to close the door (I had sat down in the middle of the hallway, she walked around me to get to different rooms.)

Sooo, needless to say, I'm kinda regretting exposing and asking her to take it out side.

Anyway...I'll just try to keep holding on....I miss my little angel so baddly.

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don't you get it ???

You arrived late to the party!