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No - don't disappear with your daughter. "Kidnapping" to your wife.
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"I went to bed. At 1:30 I was woken up when WW came into the bedroom talking quite loudly on the phone to OM."
GF,
I know I don't have to tell you this, but your WW intentionally walked into the bedroom talking LOUDLY to OM in order to wake you up and start a fight. It was all engineered by her so she could file some sort of order to discredit you in some manner for the coming legal events she has planned.
Problem is, you were prepared and didn't bite. Great job!
However, now she has went and filed an INVALID complaint "Domestic so-in-so" against you. What a manipulative lying WW she is, fogged to her eyeballs. And OM is just as evil in his collaboration of last night's events.
As UVA has responded, stay on this course. Do not let them shake your resolve to be the calm in the storm. We're very proud of you!
Jo Very well said, Jo. GF, she is trying to manipulate things. You had better get moving and start protecting yourself. You did well last night. But make no mistake...more artillery is coming in. As we say in the infantry..."those that stay in the foxhole are the dead, and those about to die." Get moving!! In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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GF~
Stick to the plan and stay on target. Kidnapping will be pinned against you in no time. Then your fight for your family will be placed on defense for the rest of the battle.
I understand you pain.... Keep in mind nothing happens over night. In god's speed brother....
You'll be okay, catch your breath and get back to formation!
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I CAN'T GET A HOLD OF MY LAWYER!! I think I should leave and go get my DD and disappear until I can talk to her!
Am I over reacting? maybe NO LETTER .... don't give your WW any letter now ... pissing in the wind would be more useful <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> take your little girl and go visit Grandparents today ... leave WW a note ... "Taken DD to Grandma and Grandpa's. Be back tomorrow." then ... take off be sure to copy the note for yourself .... the stress must be awful BOTH you and DD need to get away to re-group but be CERTAIN you leave a note .... and make a copy
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I CAN'T GET A HOLD OF MY LAWYER!! I think I should leave and go get my DD and disappear until I can talk to her!
Am I over reacting? Okay...get moving as we said. But please do so calmly, okay?!?! Who lives near you in your family? How old is your daughter again? Does she go to school? If you can swing it, I would go spend the evening and night at a relative's house. You are just off to visit for the night. Get daughter, leave the note saying "honey, went to Mom's house for the evening. DD and I will be back tomorrow afternoon. love, GF." I did this. When things were blowing up, I took the kids and went to a friend's house down the street. we spent the evening having dinner and then slept in the guess bedroom. Came back the next afternoon. This will give your attorney time to get her butt in gear. And if she continues to be this slow, then you fire her and get another attorney. YOU are fighting this battle. She is just a tool. If that tool aint working, GET ANOTHER ONE! In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Pep and Dazed...it is amazing that after awhile, we all have seen so much of this that the same advice keeps flowing out!!
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Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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I see everyone has disagreed with my going to Grandparent's plan ... but if you think your WW is going to come home and fight with you and you cannot stand the stress ... a 24 hour cooling off period will not be a bad idea
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I see everyone has disagreed with my going to Grandparent's plan ... but if you think your WW is going to come home and fight with you and you cannot stand the stress ... a 24 hour cooling off period will not be a bad idea I agreed with you!! In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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I endorse the grandparent's plan as well - with notice to your wife.
Just don't "disappear."
In fact, if you do this, call the grandparents to alert them.
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GF, have your wife served at work, for Pete's sake. It's going to be seen as vindictive? She's going to see ANYTHING you do as vindictive. Get the job done and don't try to protect your WW's feelings. She dug this hole and you can't shield her from the consequences of it.
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Ok, I should clarify...I didn't mean "disappear" I ment exactly what you guys suggested, going to my mom's place (and letting WW know). It's a three hour drive, but it'd be worth it!
Lawyer's office called back...here's the plan. I am meeting lawyer at the courthouse at 2:30, my WW will also be there, where she will be served and we will go in front of the judge that signed the protection order and get it cancelled immediately.
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Gosh, I'm on pins and needles here.
Stay the course GF, praying for you!
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I hope you can check in from your parents....
even if not, flare prayer for you.
(actually said them when I saw she was filing that lie...but another can't hurt)
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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I agree that this should never have happened and WW should have been served yesterday!
But the damage is done, so now we have to make sure that protection order gets cancelled, and my WW gets served.
I'm starting to calm down, but I'm not gonna lie...I was freaking out for a while there.
Ok...deep breaths...deep breaths....
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Leave WW a note saying that you & DD going to visit your mother and you will call her tonight. Pick up DD, Mother, and have a wonderful day at the Mall, Go out to dinnner, maybe catch a movie afterward or visit with a family friend. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Don't forget your cell phone, leave it off so you don't disturb anyone and turn it on only to make periodic calls to you lawyer. And to Call WW back later tonight (so she doesn't worry! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />) And don't forget: DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT!!!! Get a little R&R before the REAL battle begins. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Stay Strong!
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>I was freaking out for a while there.
We all do or did...we all understand.
We're your sea wall, GF. We're here to keep the big waves from crashing all the way through your defenses.
- Kimmy
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Darn! I cross posted! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Way to go GF!
Keep up the GREAT work!
Stay Strong and give that DD a hug from all of us!
WTF
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Ok, I should clarify...I didn't mean "disappear" I ment exactly what you guys suggested, going to my mom's place (and letting WW know). It's a three hour drive, but it'd be worth it!
Lawyer's office called back...here's the plan. I am meeting lawyer at the courthouse at 2:30, my WW will also be there, where she will be served and we will go in front of the judge that signed the protection order and get it cancelled immediately. How did you get your WW to go to the courthouse? Is it because of the protection order? That's why she will be served there? If so, that is the BEST possible time! And you did mean 2:30pm today right (west coast time??)? In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Yes, in a little over an hour. The lawyer's office is calling my wife...I don't know if they got a hold of her or not.
I'm guessing they are telling her it's something to do with the protection order.
Also, I just looked at our bank account. She took out $2500 for the retainer for her lawyer today. But $1500 of that was a payment from the government for my Montgomery GI Bill....after her withdrawal, there is $7.47 in that account!
I wonder if she'll get in trouble for using that money for other than it's intended purpose? (my education)
Last edited by Good_Father; 04/13/06 02:23 PM.
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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GF, I'm apprehensive of your WW's willingness to meet you at the courthouse. Like MM, I'm hoping it's because she thinks it's about the protection order. Be suspicious if you don't know that's the case. Be very suspicious. Aliens are devious.
If the reason she’s going to be there is the protective order, it sure would be wonderful if she can be served before going in to see the judge on the PO. Just a thought. I like aliens off balance.
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