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Ah. Gotcha. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
What kind of camera did you get? You know that's my hobby, right?
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I didn't know that was a hobby of yours. Here's what I bought: Jo's Camcorder
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Very nice! You up for a little surveillance this weekend? LOL
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Or recording a DD on a rollercoaster? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Ok, so now I'm getting phone calls from guys on my cell phone asking for WW...
Is this something new? Like "trying to drive you over the edge" new? Don't take the bait!
I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant. - Robert McCloskey
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Yea this is new...the guy sounded like he thought it was pretty funny when I said "no, this is her husband...can I take a message?"
eeerrrrgggggggg!!!1
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Def. a war tactic...she's baiting you right now.
How quaint, NOT.
Wonder if her lawyer told her to do this....b/c when the truth comes out, and he's probably scared s-less that it will, he's gonna have a booger of a time trying to make HER look like a good mom/person.....He's probably told her this and she is panicing.
Idiot. She should know by now YOU are better than this.
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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so what do I do? Ask her about it?
I bet it's some guy she met at a club when she was "working late". She was probably to drunk to realize that she gave him my cell instead of hers.
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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please help I just dont know what 2 do anymore either. I was the emotional cheater and he says that the only way 4 the pain 2 go away is 2 leave me but he really not sure that he wants a divorce. I dont think that we should end it if he is not sure. What do I do?!?!?
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Asking the wrong guy fallen! All I can say is to try and make it right using the MB principles, and start a new thread describing your situation.
I've gotten a lot of wonderful advice from the fine people here, and if you are genuinely remorseful, they will help you save you're marriage!
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Ok, well I decided to call the number back of the guy that called me...the initial call had a poor connection and when he asked for his wife I thought he said my wife's name (they are similiar, but not the same)...he had mixed up the last two digits of her phone number and gotten me; he dialed xx68 instead of xx98. I guess he thought it was humorous when I said the person he was trying to reach (his wife) was my wife. False alarm! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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so what do I do? Ask her about it?
I bet it's some guy she met at a club when she was "working late". She was probably to drunk to realize that she gave him my cell instead of hers. Log it in your handy-dandy notebook and go about your merry way. DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE IT TO THE WAYWARD. She'll deny anyway, secretly smiling to herself that she got under your skin.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Thank Goodness. I was beginning to want to crawl through the lines and whollop your wayward....well, the urge was there....but it was getting a lot stronger!
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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GF,
Since you've got DD for the weekend give her a big MB hug from all of us!
Have a great weekend with that DD!
I'll be back on Monday to see how things are going with you.
Stay Strong!
WTF
*** Warning *** Make sure brain is engaged before shifting mouth out of Neutral.
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Yea, I'm thinking something is going on...DD told me about WW getting the car washed. She only ever washes her car when she wants to impress someone.
She says that she just wants to be able to see the extent of the damage from when she turned too sharply and hit a big concrete planter. But that happened over a month ago...she's wanting everything to look good for someone...hmmmm.
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Good Father,
Please read this.
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[color:"blue"]The Carrot and the Stick of Plan A
by Pepperband[/color]
The Carrot of Plan A
Meeting your wandering spouse's emotional needs.
Making "home" a warm and inviting place to be.
Placing emphasis on what has worked in the marriage.
Showing consistent self improvement in areas where previously lacking.
Stop lovebusting behaviors.
Communicating with a calm reassuring voice and relaxed body language, even in the center of a verbal storm created by the infidel.
Becoming the person any reasonable spouse would want to come home to.
Remaining open to the possibility of recovery.
Offering forgiveness and understanding.
The Stick of Plan A
Exposing adultery where it matters most. Exposure that takes the form of a swift and sudden unexpected tsunami of truth.
Not appologizing for exposure or speaking the truth in a kind yet direct way.
Directly communicating the hurt and devastation that the affair has caused.
Not accepting blame for the infidel's choice to become adulterous.
Let the consequences of adultery and infidelity fall freely upon the heads of the adulterous.
Establishing boundaries that disallow the affair to effect children of the marriage, financal security of the marriage, and otherwise ruin innocent bystanders.
Standing up to infidelity as a beast that must be slayed for the good of the family.
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GF, I bumped SIS' thread for you. sleepless in seattle
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Thanks faithful! No real updates, except that WW called and said that "work" is busier than she thought it would be, so she might ask me to keep DD through tomorrow too!
LOL...working hard my butt!
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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GF,
Make sure you record in your journal that she was so "busy" at work on a Sunday that she couldn't pick up DD on time.
Regards,
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Did your next door neighbor report in on your WW's activities this w/e?
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