You are NOT a wimp...You are hurt and confused...Who wouldn't be? It is your WW that is missing out because she CHOSE not to be at DD's conference, and really GF, your DD won't be that negatively impacted by this particular choice...You were there and your DD is doing great!!!

Funny conference story: I missed my DD's last conference, but NOT by choice...1 hour before Mr. W and I were supposed to be there our DD's teacher called us with the news that our DD had her finger stuck in a hole of a plastic bin (Step2 Toy Box)...She said that DD was pretty hysterical and that one of us needed to come and calm her...I had just stepped out of the shower, dripping wet, so Mr. W had to go (good thing too, as he is the calm one of us-LOL)...Anyway, he went, borrowed snips from the janitor got her finger free and calmed her in a matter of minutes...All was fine...Her teacher just went ahead with the conference ahead of schedule with Mr. W since he was already there...Mr. W called and asked if I was ok with that-I said yes, because like your DD, our DD was progressing nicely and the conference was to be uneventful...I did tell him to ask the teacher if we should rule out rocket science as a career path given the day's circumstances...DUH!!! I'm kidding, what the heck is a company like Step2 doing making toy boxes with child finger sized holes in them...I'm surprised that it hadn't happened before! Alas, it had not, seems our DD pioneered that particular adventure singularly...what a trend setter, eh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Anyway, GF, just thought I'd provide you with some comic relief and tell you to hang in there!

Mrs. W

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Actually doing quite fine right now. I've got a decent email conversation saved with WW and her agreeing to some terms.

I know it's not a legally binding contract, but it's something more than just a verbal agreement that would come down to "he said, she said"

Glad Mrs. W and others stepped in and set you straight.

I also think your anti deps are kicking in so your niceness escalated to over-drive. Check that stuff.

But if you don't know if something is wimp-like or Plan A, just ask us. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

GF-

I'm also concerned about this second mtg- I didn't see if anyone brought this up or not.

This is what she wanted to begin with. If you pay off her cc's then this enables her to charge them back up on OM, going to see Om, etc. Don't take her word that she'll pay back her part of the debt- you know you can't trust her- you can't trust her not to charge them back up either or to cut them up.

I wouldn't borrow money to help her!!! Then you're in debt for it. She also took thousands from your GI payment- she needs to have to pay that back to you.

DO NOT sign a second mtg to help HER get out of debt.

You're in the cat bird seat here- use it to get what you want.

She actually came home on time this time!

Weird...and now before he moves out here, she wants to go live with OM for 1-3 months so they can see what "real life" will be like together.

I think she might just be starting to see that everything isn't going to be perfect with the slimeball.

Time for a short update.

things are continuing on just about the same. We stay up late talking or watching movies, but she's just waiting to be able to leave again.

She's been pretty sick the last few weeks and has been told she needs to get a lot of rest. So yesterday she left work early and went home. When DD and I got home she was asleep, so I unplugged the house phone, and I turned the ringer off on her cell phone, and she slept for 13 hours. She desparately needed it, but of course she was angry with me this morning.

Ohh well, I know I did the right thing. She throwing away her life and now her health because of her relationship with OM. If she's not going to take care of herself, I'm going to do what I can to do it for her.

So now WW's company has an opening for her position in VA. What a coincidence, huh?

She's strongly concidering taking the position and moving out there....I think we called this one a long time ago.

Anyway, she says it would only be for 6 months to see how things work between her and OM before he moves out here.

Of course she wouldn't move permanently because "I couldn't permanently move away from DD".

Riiiiggghhhtt. Well I'll keep you all posted.

That would mean the divorce petition will come up in court while she's gone on her adventure, right? That would be pretty nice.

Well she wants to have the lawyers draw up an agreement outside of the court system. That way on our trial date in 7 weeks, we would just go in to court and say we're all set to be divorced.

But, of course she's not acted on any of it.

Ok, thought I'd give another update after yesterday's drama.

I told my boss that I would be happy to do some work over the weekend, and being a "good wife" WW was looking for a way to get DD out of the house so I could concentrate. She decided to take DD to a concert being held by one of the local radio stations, asked me how I felt about it, I said that it sounds like fun and to go for it.

Then I found out that she had used OM's credit card to pay for the tickets, so I refused to let DD go.

It broke DD's heart, but I felt that I could not let even his money influence my daughter.

I also called OM and told him to stay away from my daugther. I said that I can't control what he and my wife are doing, but I can control who has influence over my daughter, and he needs no more influence than he already has by helping tear this family apart. I then hung up.

But get this....OM called right back and TRIED TO JUSTIFY HIMSELF TO ME! Said stupid SH*T like "I've been in your shoes and I know what you are going through", and "I didn't sleep with WW until you were separated" (and I informed him that we are infact still very much married).

Can you believe this slimeball felt he could justify his position to the husband of the woman he is screwing?!? What a freakin idiot!

So then WW came downstairs and found me on the phone with OM, and tried to grab the phone out of my hands. I finished the conversation by telling him to stay away from my daughter again, and hung up.

Of course this really pissed WW off, and she called 911, but then hung up. So apparently the cops came again, but got called away on an emergency before they could ring our door bell, and by the time they were done with the emergency, things had calmed down when they called back.

I then decided that I would take DD out of the house and go to the lake with a friend of mine, but while I was carrying DD down the stairs WW started trying to rip DD out of my arms. This started DD crying and saying she was scared, and WW asked if she want's to go with mommy upstairs and DD said yes, so I let her go. WW and DD went upstairs and WW locked them in the master bedroom.

So that was the drama yesterday. But I did keep WW from taking DD to the concert paid for by OM, so I'm happy about that.

GF...

That is a day that you are to be VERY proud of indeed...The guy that came to MB back on 3/29/06 would not have done what the one that we see standing before us today did on that night...GF, you've come a long way baby...I'M REALLY PROUD OF YOU!!! FIVE STARS!!!

Mrs. W

Thanks Mrs. W, though I don't really feel all that changed...

Ok, you won't believe the coincidence here guys.

I've been asked to an interview for a job; it sounds interesting, and if hired I would be making 20-50% more than I am making now.

Here's the catch...it's in the SAME BUILDING as WW's office!!

How in the world am I going to do a good plan B if we are working in the same building?!?

She's talking about how she wants to get a condo up the street from the house, and we can still drive in to work together after she moves out and everything.

Wow...is it worth it? I guess I'm jumping the gun, I've not been offered the job yet, I go for my third interview this afternoon.

THink of it as a sign, GF. If it is meant to be it will be. Can you handle it?

What about WW plan to move to VA?

She's talking about moving there for a month, but I don't know now...she is so confused and flip-flops around so much.

She's even admitted that "for the time being" I am the more stable parent.

I think we are making progress, but she is still in a fog so thick you could cut it with a knife.

Take the job if offered GF...Don't pass on an opportunity like that for YOU...The semantics of Plan B can be dealt with...The extra $$$ will just provide further custody "insurance"...Good for you...

Mrs. W