Thanks for everyone's concerns
Here is my update ....
xH did go to OW's house on Mother's day - for six hours!
He came back with an attitude of 'I didn't do anything wrong' ...
so we talked, again ... and he said that I made a whole show out of nothing, that Mother's day it like any other day and that I was not going to tell him when and where to see OC ... that I was trying to control him ... that I didn't trust him ...
how? ... if you keep doing the same things over and over ...
So this time I asked him to leave ... if you want to be with OW ... go ... I'm not going to keep you here ...and I don't want you here if that is what you want ...
You are right, I don't trust you because you haven't done anything to earn that trust ... and I cannot close my eyes and said that I trust you and let you walk all over me ... either we have a two person relationship, you and me together or you are free to go ... I don't want you here if you don't love me and if you're not available to make this relationship work ... I'm tired ... and I'm not going to live the rest of my life like this ... I understand that you want to have a cordial relationship with OW because of OC ... but from there to be a friend ... no ... I'm not going to accept that ...
I love OC, DD loves OC ... this is not about OC ... this is about you making a balance ... this is about you giving me respect ...
I don't need you ... I don't fear to be alone ...
I wanted him to leave after six hours of crying and thinking ...
Then he changed his attitude ... that he didn't want to leave, that he wanted to be with me, that he doesn't want to be with OW ...
So why are you punishing me?
I'm not punishing you ...
Yes you are ... you make me feel that this whole situation is my fault ... you make me feel that you are here because you feel an obligation, not because you really want to be here ...
From this side, all I can see is that is just a matter of time until you start again with OW ... and I'm not going to be here for that ...
So he finally apologized, and after talking a little more that he was going to make changes for us ...
So far this week so good.
I can tell you this much about the future ... my two first Mother's day, I spent with my mom and my family in PR ...
This year because we are planning to go in October for DD's Bday, I stayed here ... but next year, I will be spending Mother's Day with my family ...
