I know I have not been posting much nothing has really happened until yesterday.

Long story short WH has been exposed to OW about his cheating on her with me and all ****** broke loose. I am not going to go into the details of how exposure happened but suffice it to say OW was very mad and upset as was WH.... So the pressure is on.... She now knows he was playing her as well as me.

Of ocurse he is now done with me again and was going to kill himself if he lost the true love of his life blab, blah, blah...

DS is living with them for now. I know not what I want or like but now he can see affair world for what it is.

Now today he has been fired from his job. Now I have no clue why. So things are pretty rocky in la la land I would say. Hmmm wonder how long she will be willing to support WH and DS? Only time will tell.

Anyhow I am still dark and plan on staying this way.....


Hurting

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Hurting-
Sorry to hear you are having big drama , but maybe this
is going to bring about a real turn of events, in more
ways than one...
WOW, WH losing his job is really going to be a major LB
and bring about changes too.
I hope DS will very quickly see the truth and how ugly it
is. I predict he will be home very soon.
Hang in there- will be praying for you and situation.
Slammed

Thanks Slammed and FF, but you know what I don't feel bad or anything.

I actually feel very good...... Now if this had happened a few months ago I would be devestated but I'm not. I can make it on my own .. It may be a little tight but I can make it...... and I will.....

I look at it this way Karma at its best... what goes around comes around..... you wanna play , then ya gotta pay....

Yes I am sad for him and hate this is happening to him but these are the consequenses of his own choices and actions. I am not to blame for any of it..... His rock bottom is getting closer every day ..... He is falling fast unless someone or something steps in to save him and one thing for sure it won't be me.......

Hurting

Thanks for checking in I was thinking about you.

Too bad La La Land is having tremors....probably put some cracks in the foundation! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Confused,

Maybe a few cracks who knows.....

Just sit back and watch is all I c an do now ....


Hurting

What did you mean by this, Hurting? What is this in reference to? Did I miss something?

Mimi,

Nope you did't miss anything , she now knows about him being here all night in sept. remember that and about us seeing each other in dec plus all of the other times before Planb really went into effect.....

she is not a happy person at all... in fact he left me a VM saying I ruined his life now..
all this due to exposure .... There was a little birdie who exposed all of this.... a friend and thats all I will say about it just in case of lurking ....

And then today he lost his job, not a good thing for me either but definatley not good for them .....


Hurting

hurting,

Please don't feel bad for WH since he made this bed and now he must sleep in it. Remember the stick of Plan A?

Whenever you create a crisis for WS, it allows the fog to clear a little. He sounds like he is headed for a major crash real soon.

You are doing well.

HTW

Thanks HTW I am doing well.... I feel good and strong.

This is his mess now he has to clean it up.....

first step is getting rid of the OW or her him.

it will happen someday I feel it......


Hurting

Curious to know why he lost his job???

Lem,

To be honest I don't know , I have my own ideas about it though...

After the exposure hit yesterday he wa sbeside himself, calling and leaving me VM about how I ruined his life and how he would never see or speak to me again. on and on ...I hav ethe funny feeling he came running back to save his affair with OW he neglected to deliver a load or something and htats why...

Now thats my own take on it but Ireally am not sure.... One thing I do know is he is for a world of hurt with no money or job...

Oh and I have to say in all of his rantings yesterday he never once said he hated me..... Thats a first....

Well off to work ..

Hurting

Well......I guess that is one way to look at it... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

LM, i'm glad i'm not the only one that went <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Hurting..I've never posted to you before, but I've been reading your sitch the entire time...I was just curious as to if you are hoping if the OW leaves WH that would leave you a chance at a reconciliation?

To be honest, I think you are way too good for the WH and the way he has disrespected you and your marriage, I know this is a marriage building site and it's helped me tremendously in my situation, but I know in my heart if my FWH would so much as make a phone call to the skank OW he would be choking on my dust...I don't think 'marriage building' should come at the expense of self respect..

Please don't short-change yourself Hurting, I know that I am having a hard enough time dealing with what my H did to our marriage, after all that's gone down with yours, I'm afraid you are wanting something back that you won't even end up wanting in the end...

You know on my way home from work tonight I was thinking the same thing. Is this really what I want anymore. And if so why?

I guess maybe the final blow came tonight after he saw my DD. She called to let me know she was on her way home and told me that her dad told her tonight he didn't know what kind of games she was playing, no sure what he meant bu anyway he told her I don't want to hear nothing about your mother, I don' want her name mentioned around me at all. Of course the OW was in the car as well when he said this.

For someone was so freaked out yesterday that I ruined his life and he was gonna kill himself today the story changed. Him and th OW were as lovey dovey as ever. DD said it was like two teenagers all over each other.

So you know what I do believe i am done with this mess. Why do I want someone who has hurt me so and disrespected me like he has. His wife of 24 years the mother of his children who has stood by him through thick and thin. Nope not perfect by a long shot ,I made my share of mistakes but nothing to ever deserve this treatment. I am done, she can have him.....

I know I will always have a place in my heart for the man I fell in love with the man he used to be. I don't think that man is ever coming back this is who he is now and I don't like him at all.

I am moving on. I have to for me....


Hurting

Hi Hurting.


If you are certain in your heart of this, that you do not want him back, then move forward with peace.

You have worked as hard as anyone I can think of on these boards at trying to save your marriage. I have so much respect for you.

I think you are a wonderful person. You have an enormous amount to offer someone. Unfortunately for your WH, it's looking increasingly like it won't be him.

{{{Hurting}}}

Alph.

Alphin,

I am about as sure of this as I can be.

I do stll love him but I don't think thats enough anymore for me.

I don't know if he would have it in him to do the right things I would need for him to be able to fix this. he has said and done so many cruel things I don't know if I could get past them no matter how much I tell myself I could.

I also believe in able for me to move ahead and be truly happy I have to try and forget this and live for me. I can't keep wondering and waiting for a big turnaround that may never come. If one day it does happen so be it, then that will means its God will.

I have done everyting I can do, I have no more fight left in me. I am tired and can honestly look at myself in the mirror and say I have done all I could. I have no regrets at all.

I thank everyone for all of the support i have recieved and I will always be grateful to all of you for pulling me through some rough days and nights in the last 9 months.

God Bless all of you....


Hurting

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MBCL,

Thank you for your post and your thoughts. I never really though I would ever feel like giving up. its just been so hard and tiring for me to continue this .

Just let me clear one thing up I do still love my husband but not WS he is now. If he ever becomes the man he used to be I won't rule out anything. But for now I am just to the point until that happens if ever I am done with this. I amo not doing anything more but taking care of myself and my kids. He is on his own to either fix his life or continue living it like he is.

Oh and for those interested I did fine ou the reason for his job loss. It seems on th day all of this exposure happened in his anger and fear he became careless and had a accident with his truck. No one was hurt but he did damge the truck and thats why he lost his job. From what I understand he called his old job he had and they are going to hire him back. He will be making less moeny but still 2 times more than me. So this means he will be in town everyday working and home at night which in a way makes me feel better since DS is living out there for now.

Also the kids and I went to Six Flags over Texas yesterday and had a wonderful time. I even rode a roller coaster somethin I am very afraid of. I figure why not try I have made it through this mess and still alive and became stronger so I can ride this darn coaster and show myself I can conqure anything if I try. I let go of the fear and thats something I am doing with my marriage,letting go of the fear of loosing him forever. My fears have kept me from doing many things but I now know I can over come all of them and move ahead.

Hurting

Well DS w ent back with his father tongiht..... He didn't seem like he wanted to leave here. Maybe just maybe things are not that great in fantasy land.....

I pray he comes home soon....

Hurting