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Habiba, you can make the choice to end the A, if you so choose. What is your choice?
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Habiba, youi can't wait until you hit bottom to end contact with the OM. If you sit around and wait for a feeling to land on you, you will be waiting forever.
You simply have to make a choice to end contact NOW. It is a CHOICE, not a feeling.
You have deeply hurt so very many people, who are willing to forgive you if you stop this cruelty. But first you must STOP NOW.
You understand this, right?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Sfjaj,
Not thinking of leaving w/ him.
Feeling strange, numb. Wanting incentive to change.
I'll keep posting until I resolve this. I'm too stubborn to give up now!
I appreciate your efforts. Thanks for keeping me encouraged to post.
(((sfjaj)))
"When you love someone, all your saved up wishes start coming out."
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(Changed my profile name, as it was appearing in Google searches. Yikes!)
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If you want to see what your OM is really like, imagine that this is the guy who's sleeping with his own son's wife. How can that NOT make you sick?
Now, put the shoe on the other foot and imagine your H eventually sleeping with your son's wife. Not saying that it would ever happen, but it is in your life, right now isn't it?
I had to use this same logic on my WW because honestly, if I EVER caught my son having an A with a married woman, he and I would have a come to Jesus meeting REAL quick.
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REMARRIED to a wonderful woman October 13, 2012!
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(((Habiba))))),
You can do this...I can tell you are a strong woman who is a good mother and compassionate person. Really ponder what makes you feel comfortable and good. I will continue to be here to encourage you.
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(((Habiba))))),
You can do this...I can tell you are a strong woman who is a good mother and compassionate person. Really ponder what makes you feel comfortable and good. I will continue to be here to encourage you. SEE!!! That is exactly what we're talking about. Instead of pondering what makes you feel comfprtable and good, why not ponder on what is right and just and beneficial for her family? It's that hedonistic, secular-humanism mindset that got you into trouble to begin with and now you're offering her the ability to entertain that aspect again? You can not honestly be that blind and insensitive to her or her family. I really wish her kids were here to read your advice to her, then I wish you could see the hurt on their faces as she takes it and continues her A, ultimately destroying the lives of those kids FN
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how could he possibly be as kind and loving as the OM right now? Habiba, read that statement again... Is OM/grandpa really kind and loving?? Do you define kind and loving someone like your H who wants to save his marriage to you, who is faithful to you? Or is kind and loving someone who cheats on his grandkids grandma with his DIL, the kids MOTHER! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Habiba, there is no contest as to who is the better man here and frankly you as a mother need to make the best decision for your children. The means NC for life with OM/grandpa.
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
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habiba, when around post again
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Habiba, I see the other posts have been locked, thank God. Now perhaps, you can post here again, and I will listen. Hope to talk with you soon
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sfjaj,
Come on. Your behavior is really taking attention away from those who desperately want help. Please stop!
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sfjaj...
Please leave Habiba alone...it is NOT your type of help that she needs right now...
Mrs. W
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Frozen, I am speaking to habiba and am trying to help her. Leave me alone, I don't wish to entertain any more arguing, either
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sfjaj,
Please REread the TOS and MB policy again. And the intro to the Discussion Forums where it asks you to be familiar with the MB Concepts PRIOR to posting on the forums.
THIS IS A SUPPORT forum for those rebuilding their marriage using Marriage Builder Concepts.
If you find yourself unable to support those trying to do so, PLEASE find a forum that better suits your needs and goals.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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entertaining is what this has become- helpful it is not.
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I am doing nothing wrong, Justuss, it seems to me that you are completely ignoring others who have been downright hostile to me. Why don't you chide them?
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Frozen, I am speaking to habiba and am trying to help her. Leave me alone, I don't wish to entertain any more arguing, either Then leave, you don't want help, you've made that very obvious...no one here is going to leave you to spread your brand of poison all over...you have made a mess of things for yourself here-yes, you did it, now OWN it, and go...leave Habiba out of your wrath... Mrs. W
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No one esle is debating MB principles. We are all supporting them- if that means contradicting you, then yes that is what we are all doing.
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habiba, please post...I will be here
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