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STBXH ([censored] or whatever he is) called yesterday crying because OW was mad at him because he didn't defend her to me.

I don't know, but I kind of enjoy the thought of him and her squirming somewhat over me.

And the funny thing--I really don't care if her husband was horrible to her, etc. (stuff she wanted WH to tell me). She'll always be one of my least favorite people, a homewrecker, the OW. Always--to me.

Funny though, don't ya think?
And maybe a little sad.
Yes, sad too.

The more you can concentrate on not being their focus, the more they will start fighting.

You are doing a great job. Be sure not to criticize the OW to him. Try to stay out of their drama.

And what a crazy thing for him to do - cry to you about her.

He is crazy, Believer, to think he can treat me like this.

I am so AMAZED at the way he treats me. Even still, after all he has done, he is so cold and cruel.

There remains this pit in my stomach that feels this sharp pain/emptiness every now and then when he does something else.

Like moving in to the house with her. Our house.
Or like today--I had the boys call him (i am in ohio this week visiting my parents). He tells ben to hand me the ohone (I have the volume high on my phone, so I could hear this) and when I get on, he is laughing, says "hold on Tiff" (Tiff is OW) and says to me "do you need something?" I say no, and he says "okay, bye then."

He is so manipulative. Cruel on so many levels.

Total. Total disregard for me completely. Unless he is feeling the stress of his adulterous relationship.

But I cut him off, now.

I need to call the lawyer about the fact that he is moving in to the house while it is on the market anyway.

When I told him I don't think I should pay my half of the mortgage if he and especially she is living there, he said I don't care about the father of my children, I am better than that, and I just want him to be homeless.

People, he is a mean man. But for some reason, I can't make it not hurt. When will it stop?

next time he calls, have song "Earl's Gotta Die" in the background. Say laughingly in a distracted way during a sentence of WH, "Now Biff quit touching me while I'm on the phone"...and then giggle.

Tell him that you aren't paying for his affair any more than you have done already. i t's his time to get a job. his time to pay the piper.

or suggest that "TIFF" get a job at a doggie day spa on the side so she can move in with a married man who likes to get his on the side too!

Tell him that it's ok if Tiff and the Wayward Spouse are homeless. But that you and your kids who need the family home b/c YOU'RE A REAL FAMILY...

Next time he and his mistress have a fight...ask him "what's wrong Wayward honeypoo? Having a TIFF WITH TIFF? [censored]."

I have SUCH BAD PMS.

Who T F calls themselves "Tiff" past age seven anyway?

That would be nice, but would NEVER happen. Texas doesn't seem to care about adultery as grounds, etc. This no-fault junk stinks. I am really getting stuck with most of the bills, etc. And child support? I will get for three growing boys a whopping total of $565/month. i am sorry for the sarcasm, but I just don't get it. What's worse?--WH even complained about that total!!! Three boys and he complains about that.

Her name is Tiffany. I think he called her that to hurt me really. There is no other reason for it. He always says he is sorry, but he just loves her and has to make it work.

Loves her?

I don't really think so. But I know I just want to know myself what it looks like to really be loved. My friends all tell me that when I find someone who really treats me well, I will realize how dysfunctional it really was with him. I'm not looking obviously, but I would like to know one day what that is like.

Love ya, Peach. Love your spunk!

InTexas,

Haven't heard from you in a few days. Hope everything is going well and your trip was good.

IAD