Yes, after he confessed about the affair, he was going through some withdrawals and he went to our Doctor and got on anti-depressents. The withdrawals didn't last long because of the meds and because she went psycho on him. Also, he told the Dr. about the affair. One thing about H is he has been open about it and asking for help and is really trying to undo what he did. Tell's me everyday that he loves me very much and how sorry he was.

But when OW comes back into the picture, it ruins everything and puts us back in a rut.

H has been telling me that he is having stomache pains and can't sleep for the past two days. I think he may have an ulcer, but he won't go to the doctor. It all started when he received the RO from her. He is making himself physically sick now. Should I be worried about this??? Is it because of the guilt or because he is scared or really is sick???

Help, I am getting really irratated and concerned about H

Yeah. You can worry...but HE has to fix himself. If you try to "make" him do it, he's gonna be resentful and ugly.

How is he going to protect his family if he allows her mental games to ACTUALLY WORK?

- Kimmy

This will be hard to get through in the short term, but be happy and grateful anyway. The more psycho this woman appears to your husband, the greater his disgust for her, and the less the temptation he will have to contact her again.

Our OW was bad by normal standards, but wouldn't win even a Dishonorable Mention in the Notorious MB Psycho OP Awards. Even so, she made herself so obnoxious during the end of the A and for the first several months of R, that except for that niggling little doubt that will probably always be with me, I am quite confident that my FWH will never want to speak to her again.

Keep your eye on the prize!

I just got a call from my H today. He told me he was now having chest pains. I called the Dr. and got the run around from the advise nurses. I left a message for the Dr. to call me or H asap. I will let you know what happens.

I agree with you ont he how can he suddenly have no feeling for her anymore. I am in that smae position. My H was involved for a year and a half and then he was done with her and he wanted me - what prompted the sudden change? How do I become so wonderful when I was not what he wanted for the past year and she was the light of his life? I am still having trouble with this one.

I have come to realize that it was not really love he had for her, it was the way she made him feel and the way he could escape his responsibilities. We struggle with money and the kids and everyday life, but H could not handle it as well as I. He turned to her because she made him feel like someone loved him without any conditions or responsibility. I think when she started pressuring him for more, she might have burst his romantic bubble. He has told me that he never stopped loving me. OW prompted the change...You are still the WONDERFUL wife he married and he choose you over her..Now roll with it and use plan A..Give alot of love deposits too...He will see what a huge mistake he made. Our H's no matter what the reason ended it and when the OW starts up trouble, it only makes the H's see the real person they are (selfish,low-self esteem,crazy home wrecker)and how much H's have hurt us. I hope they spend the rest of their lives making it up to us..

Dr. did not have any time to schedule H for an appt. but he did call him on the phone, he didn't seem to overly concerned about H, which leads me to beleive he is having panic attacks..What do you think. He is not even out of bed yet and it is 2:15pm pst..I said are you ever going to get up and he snapped at me that he is sick and will get up when he wants to. I have just been cleaning the house and taking c/o the kids. Is he going through the withdrawels again? I need some advise, because I am getting kind of tired of this. It has been like this since last Monday when he received the RO...