pepperband, ark, whoever you are: must be your split personalities talking again! You all are hilarious...what a mixed-up, confused group you are...motley crew

I think you need a refresher then.

For one thing, I mentioned three types of individuals. The Cocain addict, the child molester and the wayward spouse. All three addicts, all three self-obsessed.

All three blaming society, their abusive mothers or their spouse for their mistakes never once accepting responsibility for their own actions.

Finally, only man places levels on sin, God does not. Jesus said if you're guilty of the smallest, you're guilty of them all.

Why is it do you think, that five of the top threads in the GQII section of these boards are dealing with you? Do you fancy yourself some kind of attention magnet? Do you think that everyone is stalking you, out to get you or discredit everything you say?

While I do not question your desire to help others, I do question your timing and your motivations as many posts you have made have been suspect. Like I mentioned earlier, counter productive and detrimental to the recovery one or two WS who have genuine concerns and questions.

Questions that can not be answered by someone still harboring self-loathing, regret, resentment, bitterness and mistrust and who may only be weeks ahead of said WS in terms of recovery time.


FN

I hope you read it carefully so it sinks in. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

nibblets?

As much as I would like to help you sfjaj -I think you are very self destructive and just want people to see it your way - it's okay to disagree ya know.

For now - I am going to have to put you on my ignore list...cause I can't read other posts right now as you keep littering them all up.

If you ever do REALLY want to talk about the changes you could make - feel free to email me. candice.louise@gmail.com - until then...I really do hope you one day see how destructive your behavior is - and how unhelpful it is...you aren't being sympathetic - you are being defensive, stubborn and close minded.

Take care...and when you are ready - I am

BAHAHAHA!!!

SNAKES ONA PLANE!!!!

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FN

FN, I didn't say I didn't get the analogy; it is flawed. They are answer options that wouldn't have even made the top 500 in the old SAT preparation coursework. And, actually, I don't have self-loathing; I know I erred and hurt my family. I admitted as such. But I am not going to answer ML or any other BS call for self-degradation for his/her entertainment. That just frustrates the he!! out of all of you, doesn't it? That recovery in a M may actually work without following a cult-like mindset

Pepperband,

Nope. They already know him, don't need to get used to a stranger, he is fun and caring with them. Is it the age gap which bothers you? It doesn't bother me.

If you want to challenge the A as an A, fine. But I actually consider it a bonus that the kids already have a relationship w/him.

newsflash: God is the only perfect one here. I know you have a God-complex, but YOU are human. GASP!

If you honestly don't think the MB ministry or site or "cult-like mindset" works...

...why are you here?


FN

This AND a couple of bucks will get you a large coffee at a BP station nationwide...You can have all the education in the world, and still NOT GET IT, and as Lem would say, YOU JUST DON'T GET THAT YOU DON'T GET IT...

YOU ARE A REAL PIECE OF WORK, sfjaj...

Continuing Pat's line of thought, when thinking of you, and using your chosen name...it comes out something like this sjfkdlsajfgldksjafkl...buy a vowel ENGLISH major...I could NOT believe it when you tried to engage Dorry over that last week...UNREAL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


Mrs. W

Habiba, are you considering leaving with your FIL?

the age gap does not bother me

the ethical gap is what makes me cringe

Okay, enough is enough. This troll has got to go...

Dorry, you are the close-minded one, placing me on ignore. Wow, I thought I offered wisdom, but I had no idea I was THAT threatening. You just helped my case. Mrs. W. coming from someone who allows herself to be flogged consistently over past actions, I consider being a "piece of work" a compliment. Thank you, Mrs. W! I will continuing posting

I agree, it's basically a form of incest.


FN

>cult-like mindset

If that is what you think this is, why are you here?

To pick and choose what will work for you? This isn't Burger King, you know.

Very few can pick and choose and have MB work for them. Lessee if I can remember any......um.......thinking.....tapping toe....thinking....rolling eyes....

Yeah...that's it! That would be NONE. Duh-doy!

>That just frustrates the he!! out of all of you, doesn't it?

No. What frusterates the he11 out of everyone is your half baked attempts at helping other before you have a clear and working understanding of the Marriage Building principles and processes. What frusterates the he11 out of everyone is your fixation on your education and everyone elses grammer and spelling...WHEN THAT'S NOT WHY WE'RE HERE.

Focus the spotlight of introspection on ONLY you for awhile. THINK about the MB principles before you post. Sheesh. I learned for a LONG time before I felt qualified to dole out advice...and even now question myself before I do. Till I learned and MASTERED some of the techniques, tho, all I was good for was commiseration and emotional support.

yes, I know...I know NOTHING, and everyone else is God

It’s time for the personal attacks to end, sfj. You complain about people attacking you on a personal basis but you’re actually the guilty one in that department. You need to either support your position with logic, with published scholarly articles, and with experiences of how you recovered from the obscenity of the adultery you committed. That’s what other people are doing when they tell you that you are wrong. Telling you that, btw, isn’t a personal attack. When you have the articles and have accumulated experiences, you will be able to help others through this period. You haven’t reached that point.

No one said that.

Dramatic much?