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ark, her H told his mother about the affair last night.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ML, I might suggest you do the same
Habiba, I know you are getting many different pieces of advice. I urge you to seek IC; that is a great start
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here's part of the motivator..
this world is full of crap and chaos...
and when we have children...
it is our duty to do and control the crap and chaos that we can....
because already of it sucks without us adding...
you habiba...bring insecurity and confusion right to their hearts and rooms....
when this blows up they will lose one of their parents...
not because of something uncontrollable...but because that is the choice the grownups made in their lives...
they will not know security
and a happy home...
they will know pain and fear....
brought to them by their own parents...
it's really really sad....
to not bring chaos to the children...should be enough motivation...
should be..
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did he do it
or did he threaten to do it
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ML, I might suggest you do the same Fix yourself, sfjaj, before you try to fix others. The blind cannot lead the blind....
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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did he do it
or did he threaten to do it
ark Yes, he did do it.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Some days I want to move, other days I don't.
I've researched custody laws and I found that A's don't affect custody, just alimony.
Yes, I've got to move away. It's the only way I'll be able to see this for what it really is: an ugly situation.
1WH and I will keep posting on our progress.
Thanks to one and all, and if anyone has an answer to my Q's for God, PLEASE ANSWER!
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Habiba, I am here anytime...please keep posting honestly. Your honesty may not be PC here but it will help you work through it
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I DID do the same when I was brand new here - 5 years ago. I kept my mouth shut and my ears open and tried to learn from those who had successfully recovered marriages. Maybe you could learn something if you tried that method? As they say in AA to the newcomers, take the cotton out of your ears and put them in your mouth. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Fix yourself, sfjaj..............
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And I repeat ML, you do the same. You obviously too have issues and sink to the lowest common denominator with your behavior
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Fix yourself, sfjaj, before you try to fix others.....
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ML, you need fixin' too: follow your own advice
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sfj, you're getting good advice. Take it. You can't help anyone until you have healed your own marriage.
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ML, you need fixin' too: follow your own advice But you aren't healthy enough to understand who needs fixin and who doesn't, dear. You are barely 2 weeks into recovery yourself and your marriage is a shambles. Fix yourself first, and then you can fix others.....
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Fix yourself, ML...get right with God
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Melody is a woman who follows the teachings of her church. She doesn't need fixing, sfj. You need to learn from Melody and the others instead of deriding their expertise.
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Fix yourself, ML...get right with God Do you believe your marriage is recovered in the 2-3 weeks since your affair?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Please, ML displays about as much Christian attitude as the Pharisees did: all scripture knowledge and condemnation, no real actions behind it.
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Actually, Melody shows infinite compassion, sj. But she won't back down when infidels speak heresies. Why are you making this about MelodyLane? Why don't you do as I've asked several times and support your opinions with facts, published papers, and quotations from the personal experiences of folks who have successfully recovered from infidelity?
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