Great steps!! I can tell you it is a very hard road!! I've been on it for about 6 months now. I wish you and your family the best!! This is great news!

Sturg,

I've been doing all right. I updated on my thread if you want to check it out. I am finally starting to get some answers from my H. I'm not sure it's the truth <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> but I'm getting answers. It is hard to believe him.

--CO

well good luck w/ your answers and does he have any tell, tell signs of when he's lying i know my W has them. any how good luck.

I would Saenz, but I don't do luck anymore. We do faith...much better and smarmy ole luck any day.

So I wish you faith. I wish you all renewed hope and I wish you love and healing.

Also, as a side note, the moment you stepped into MB, and stepped up for your marriage was the moment your 2nd chance started. This....this glimmer is your seeds of change in your marriage beginning to sprout. I wish you a very fruitful crop.

- Kimmy

deal:
great way of thinking so yes wish my family faith..

looking foward to sat for sum much needed family time at a local art ceramics store where you can paint stuff and then they fire it for you.

then im taking my oldest son to the batting cages to get sum swings in, he needs sum help w/ the bat yet, hes one of the most gifted soccer players i've seen his age. he's going to make a super goal keeper when he gets older.

also went to see a house w/ 4 bedrooms. brand new which would be great if we get it i know it will help w/ alot of stress we've been having not to mention my daughter will finally get her own bedroom i know shes hated sharing a room w/ my oldest son.

things are finally starting to go right for my family again thank god.

all this mess i've been in and all i needed was to pray and to ask for forgiveness for being away from him for so long. since all this i've happened i've prayed that he would put us on the best road for my family no matter if the road ment that we would have to split up or be together i just wanted whats best for them. and look at us now.. my mother would be proud of me to see i was able to perserveer.

i know i still have a long road ahead of me but with "faith"
i know our family will move ahead in the right direction.

i've also began to pray for my in-laws so that they can begin to heal from the passing of there son, i can't even imagine that pain i just hope that oneday their heart's can feel some kind of happiness. i wish i could give them sometihng to help them but only time can help w/ that pain and to be honest i dont think you can ever get past losing a child.

so hug your love ones and tell them you love them, you never know when it's the last time.. i missed my chance w/ my mother cause of my anger i never got to say good bye. but thats another days story.

i have my family back......... figured i would end my post w/ a smile.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

hope everyone had a good day.. if not just remember there is always a silver lining to every cloud you just have to look for it!!!

So glad to see you happy, saenz!!

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />!!

Have a great day!!

--CO

thanks, sarah i left you a hello and why is it always your thread that has controversy? j.k.

hope you guys have a good weekend planed

Hey saenz,

How is your weekend going? I'm guessing good or you'd be on here asking for help. That's a good thing.

I don't know why my thread always has controversy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

Have a great weekend with your family!

--Sarah

Que Bueno Compa!!!

what the good word????

hope all is well.!

sup all this weekend was great 4 me took the fam to sea world had great time W has stayedthe night @ home the last 3 nights which has been great.

we're trying to find a bigger house now hope we find 1 soon.

sturg:
how was your weekend did ya bust any my peeps?

sarah:
and how was your weekend as well?

Hey saenz,

Good to hear about your weekend. I have been on the downlow since Sunday, been too angry to post. I updated today if you want to see what's going on in my world.

Just prepare yourself b/c this whole recovery thing is the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life!! I can't even begin to explain the ups and downs!

Good luck house hunting. I hated doing that. It took us about a year till we finally found one we both liked. And now look, I may lose it if I decide to divorce him (I'm still not sure). I'm just not feeling this whole recovery thing right now.

Well, I'm glad you are doing well. Keep us updated on your progress!

Hey Sturg <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />!

--Sarah

i had a tough nite last nite myself but hope thing get better for you.

i'm having trust issues my W ex. is in town for a day and our 2 older two kids went and spent the night w/ him. i have asked my W to have as little contact w /him as possible while he's here. but part of me doesn't trust that she will. she told me nothing happened when she stayed w/ him while we where seperated but we all know how that goes.

i just wish she would realize that i'm still having trust issues and that she would do anything to show me that she could be trusted again.

Hey saenz,

Your W needs to do anything to show you she can be trusted. You should be able to call her at anytime and ask where she is, what she's doing, who she's with. She should be willing to answer these types of questions! Now if only I could get my H to be honest <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />!

This is what I mentioned the other day about you both putting 100% into working on the M. She needs to be totally transparent with you. She should be willing to show you cell phone bills, cell phone calls, etc., etc.

The whole trust thing takes a really, really long time.

--Sarah

sarah oh sarah there's no time 4 good bye's oh sorry about that, i know you've heard that a million times but whats a mill + 1. hehehe.

any ways how are you doing on this day of days, i hope that all finds you well along w/ your family. how are those D of yours doing.

keep your head up girl no need to let this weigh you down all the time remember keep your busy!!!

and as always good day, good night and all that stuff..

well just found out that we got the house we are looking at its a 4 bedroom as a pose to a 2 bed. so now the older two kids can have there own bedroom. all we are waiting for now is to get paid from these people that owe my W some money.

this is a good next step for my family we wont be on top of each other like we have been.

now we just have to pack 5yrs of stuff in 2 weeks yeah how fun.

Congrats on finding a house. Good luck packing. I know I hated it. The other fun part is unpacking <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />!

I hope you and your family have a great Mother's Day!!

--Sarah

thanks sarah,

and like wise i hope you and your family have agreat mother day.

also congrats on your husbands new tat.

Hey saenz,

How was your weekend? Mine was pretty good. I got really depressed last night though.

How have you been holding up? How is the recovery coming along? What did you get your W for Mother's Day?

Haven't heard from sturg for a while either!

Going out with my friend tonight for a latte. I haven't seen her since Nov. of last year!! We have a lot of catching up to do. She knows about the A. But there is still a lot more I have to fill her in on. I think the last time I talked to her was Thanksgiving. And so much has happened since then!

--Sarah

sarah,

sorry to hear you got depressed im doing pretty good i have my moments but for the most part its been good, we went to her parents house and had dinner. then came home also took boys to the batting cages and went to go watch the movie goal since we all play soccer. was a very good movie a must see and own. currently we're trying to pack up but dang there is just a lot of stuff uh good gosh.

have tonite just dont drink to much cause then you'll be up all nite i guess. since im not a coffee person. anyhoo

see ya!!

que bueno compa!!

i just got back from cabo the other day...ahd some free time and decided to go fishing!!! hooked one marlin in 3 days...not alot of fish but good times no matter what!!!

sounds like things are goin pretty well for you...ill keep my "pimp hand" in my pocket, unless you get outa line again and need to get worked over!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

just hit the 1 yr anniversary with GF....things are rollin along pretty well!!!

NEVER let someone ever dictate your own self worth, you have come to far for that....you should change your thread name......just my opinion....but heck.....you do have a 5 star rating!!!