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Actually, we did contact the OMW recently.

Well OK, now we're getting somewhere.

Why not give an update on how that went??

Sure would be more productive then the last couple of hours of fighting multiple battles on various threads.
Even You've got to be growing weary of that.

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Top Rope, it went badly. The OMW was devastated and the OM contacted me with the idea that now that both spouses know, we could be together

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So sfjaj, does that mean you are back in C with OM? Did you immediately inform your H of the above C?

I am sorry for the BW. My FWH had an OC last year. It is devastating.


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Of course it went badly. You expected kisses and roses from her? You helped wreck her marriage, sfj. Things like that never go well. Letting your partner in adultery contact you points out how immature your recovery is. Your progress in getting your own marriage back on track is only in it's beginning stages. Let the pros out here help you.

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I'd suggest you cease inciting the unwanted attention by simply avoiding creation of these types of posts. DUH!

Yep Resilient...on the nose...wouldn't you say that DUH stands for "Desperate Urban Housewife" in this case in particular? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


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two ADD poster children.


And Yep 4th...ADD...that stands for "Another Dramatic Dilemma", right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


Mrs. W <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


FWW ~ 47 ~ Me
FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering
DD ~ 17
Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

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yes, i mentioned that on another post, this has caused much pain

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Actually that's progress. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Why?

Cause as Long as its ONLY in "his" mind that you CAN get back together ........the sunshine that is the truth can Now let he and His W begin to address their own issues and problems.

Soon they will be wrapped up in their own lives (as it should be) and won't have the time nor energy to be involved in yours. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Good going for you!
That is a Huge (but critical) Step! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
So Way To GO!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Now that's the kind of news you Should Be Reporting! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Top Rope, it went badly. The OMW was devastated and the OM contacted me with the idea that now that both spouses know, we could be together

pffffffffffffffft

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you have so many threads going where do I find this post?


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So, sfj, when are you going to let others help you instead of being angry that they can read you so easily?

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"Top Rope, it went badly. The OMW was devastated and the OM contacted me with the idea that now that both spouses know, we could be together"

When in recovery renewed contact places the affairees right back to square one, equating to affair back on even if only in their minds, which we all know is just as dangerous and damaging to maariages.

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I didn't make the contact. He did, and then I told him I didn't want to hear from him anymore, and my H knows this. Faithful, I will try to find that thread. I will be happy to answer any questions you have for me in the meantime.

Pep, your response just confirmed that you enjoy ridiculing, making fun of those trying to recover. You are pathetic.

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No one is making fun of those trying to recover. She's making fun of people trying to pretend they are something they aren't.

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Well, then, don't know who she's talking to

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Well, then, don't know who she's talking to

Don't be daft...

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Do you have some bitterness in your heart against Pep? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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I'm not; I'm here trying to recover so have no clue to whom they are referring

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