Well, um, hmmmmmm.....

HEY, you haven't been right about my bf and I! So there....

At least, not yet <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

**cross fingers, spit spit, pinch of salt over shoulder, fervently praying**...... and hoping you won't be....

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Er, okay, fine, how about the last time before that one??

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

AGG

mlhb & gekko,

"Private messaging shows up as an option but is not enabled for use on the Marriage Builders Forums. Check out the number of posts in the Infidelity section of the forums and remember that a very large number of affairs have started as inappropriate internet friendships. We feel that it is not in the best interests of marriage building to provide a vehicle for private conversations online."

This was posted by Tempest our moderator.

thanks immovingon... I did not know that... but it makes sense,especially if you are in one of the forums where you are trying to save your marriage.

mlhb

Well, I'm glad that's settled, cuz I was thinking, "get a room!" for a while there.

Considering this is the after divorce board I can't imagine people won't want to meet one another if they feel simpatico after corresponding here. Having said that doesn't mean I think this should become the newest open forum match.com, just that "meeting" here is not such a bad thing.

am i allowed to defend myself at all?

first of all, i was joking around with her and she with me. what we do talk about is divorce related.

i have meant every word i have posted at this site. i have zero ulterior motive. i have been through complete heck. because i decided to end a loveless marriage that was emotionally abadoned for three years i was treated like a meth addict just out of prison. i didn't see my daughter for almost three weeks while i took the high road.

my nose is was completely clean throughout the process. i laid down on the rr tracks and was run over by my ex time after time.

btw, i appreciate this criticism on a day when i ask my ex for TWO extra hours on easter and get denied just one week after i give her an ENTIRE DAY at the end of the month for her vacation with my daughter.

i am not reayd for a relationship. i also don't have the time, energy or money to carry on something with someone who lives a thousand miles away.

we have the same sense of humor and similar divorce situations. that has sparked interesting, funny, and informative conversations. we are all here to help each other right?

if it pleases all of you i will give my email and phone number to any of you who ask for it and we can talk as well. i joined here to listen to people with similar situations. i hoped that i could also help someone after the HORRIBLE time i have been through. i am hurting and i know hurt just like some of you.

for the record i apologize if i offended anyone. i am here with the best intentions. if you don't want me here, just say so.

I am sure everyone still wants you here gekko...

we just have a sense of humor not everyone gets, but hey, that is what makes the world go around...!

I am sure no one is angry, and you give excellent input and insite. so you better stick around! mlhb

No need to apologize at all, bud! You are more than welcome here, and you are among friends.

Just consider the earlier nudges as "words from the wise", not because we (the veterans) are any wiser than you, but because we have been here long enough to see how vulnerable people are during/after divorce, and some of the all too common pitfalls we/they fall into.

We'll steer you straight, and hopefully mostly with a nudge rather than a 2x4 <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Welcome!

AGG

Sorry you've had a rough day ((gekko)).....

You do come off as a good guy, who's just working his way thru the muck that is divorce, w/ a little humor. We've all been there, exactly where you are now. Our comments in no way mean you are not welcome here! Quite the contrary.....

Just expect to gets LOTS of different view points, some more direct and pointed than others, some sugar coated but mostly not. We're all here to help one another and learn...

Keep the funny posts coming <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

just for the records: <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

mlhb & gekko
I don't mind you
and if that makes you feel better, (assuming that doesn't hurt anyone in your real life either), I even support you
for making jokes or... whatever

thanks from some of you.

today has been very bad. i am fighting with a friend who has helped through a lot of this, my stbx not only turned me down on the two hours extra on easter, but also on wanting me to attend my daughter's gymnastics classes, and proceeded to lecture me on what did get that is the most special to me - thursdays. those are daddy days. she's with me every thursday if its my weekend or not. i gave up one thursday for her at the end of the month so they could go on vacation together. did it without hesitation because it was important for my daughter. now, i ask for two extra hours and getting to see my daughter's gymnastics and i get slapped down with a lecture.

look i am a smart aleck. i make no apologies for it. my humor has gotten me through a dark time. mlhb and i have the same sense of humor. we use it to help each other.

that's all. plus she's blond, do you have any idea how many jokes are at my disposal? think about it.

great, blonde jokes.. the future looks bright... lol mlhb