I understand what you're saying hurt, but sometimes I have to ask myself am I making more of it than it is. I mean I'm sure there are going to be some more uncomfortable moments in the next 18+ years, but sometimes the benefits may outway the uncomfortableness.

For instance, my H has a 22 year old daughter from a girlfriend in high school. The child was put up for adoption, but she found her Mom and Dad and is in contact with them now (she lives 30 minutes away from her biological Mom). She is getting married soon and I will be attending her wedding. Her biological Mom will be there and let's just say, we knew eachother in high school and had the police called on us once :-). It won't be comfortable, but do I not go just because of that?

I think God had a hand in my son getting sick, I mean, he never gets sick and he was fine the next day. My youngest children got to go (the ones who would most have fun there) and I didn't have to deal. I think OW probably thinks son wasn't even sick (since he was fine the next day), but I think God helped me make that decision. Perhaps if I would have gone, he would have walked me through that too and I would have felt strong. Who knows, but sometimes you just have to consider more than just how you feel. Scared/uncomfortable or not, it may just all work out fine.

Please know I'm not arguing with you, just giving you another point of view :-).