You need to go home AND tell the pastor at the church - immediately - mess his life up so he will back off. She has now told you she would not give him up, right? Go tell and go home.

I am not one to be talking - it took me a long time to decide to expose to OMW in my case, but I sure felt better when I did and I still do. You need to tell the pastor. This is a church, not a business. And, as I pointed out in a post above, this OM has messed with you - now it's time to mess with him. Not the best reason, I admit, but it's one reason among many. If he backs off, your W will have to get over it.

Also, babies don't have to nurse - get some Similac or Infamil or whatever they call it these days and give it a bottle.

Duglas,

Please return home now. Leaving your house is the worst possible mistake you could make. Before making momentous decision like this again, please post here to get feedback to make sure that you are on the right track. Do not let your emotions dictate your actions. It is a recipe for disaster.

So unless you don’t mind OM screwing your WW in your own bed, while your children are in the next room, you should go back home TODAY.

Further, the paper your WW signed for separation is probably not a legally valid one. You have set yourself up to be royally screwed.

You need to be smarter about this, and stop doing things that will only hurt your cause—be it saving your M or protecting your children and yourself.

God bless

P.s. When you go home, you don't have to justify to your WW why you are back at your own home. You just go home and let her think or feel whatever she wants.