Miss M,

Thanks so much for the prayers I really need them at this point.

You know i never wanted this to happen and if I am being honest I still don't but I have come to accept it is happening and i am at peace with that.

Since it happening I just want it over so I can move ahead and leave this town. I want a new beginning and as long as this keeps dragging out it isn't happening.

I am not sure about DD yet she keeps changing her mind. I do hope she does decide to go with my ODS and his w ife for awhile. This would be good for her to get away from here as well.

I will update as soon as I know something from my attorney on Tuesday....

Hurting

bump for some insight maybe

I have no insight on the two court date thing, but I've got a big hug for ya!

((((((((Hurting)))))))))

Any Memorial Day plans? Or are you working?

Jean,

Nope no plans just packing the house up.... I am off work so I should be able to get a lot done.....

Thanks for the hugggg heres one back for you (((( Jean))))


Hurting

Hi hurting.

I heard your song again today. (Jo Dee Masina "I want a man who will stand beside me"...have you heard it yet?)

I hope you can have some fun this weekend...
I don't know what's up w/ 2 dates...I would think you would have been served something if he has other issues. Hopefully its a clerical error. Let us know.

Plan B is hard...I kept thinking of things I wanted to tell WH today. I had the kids call him when I wasn't home.

cha Cha,

I know what you mean about reasons to call your WH. I used to have them all the time. But you know right now I have nothing I would want to say to my WH. You will get there...

Of course my WH has nothing ot say to me either since he is following strict orders not come anywhere around me.... He is not even allowed to go to his mothers 7 houses way bcause it makes OW uncomfortable... These words straight from the horses mouth to my SIL. How sad for him he can allow this womna to keep him from his own mother because of her insecurity of what may would happen if he saw me....

Oh well this is his he// now and he must live it.... But it sure is the beginning of future resentment I am sure...

Hope eveyone has nice holiday ...... I am packing, such is life.....


Hurting

You doing OK, Hurting? Just letting you know I was thinking about you.

((( Healing ))) I, too, am thinking of you.... sending along my best wishes !!!

Carnation

Me too! Did you ever find out about the 2nd court date?

Hurting-
I don't much about the court stuff works- did you find
out about the two court dates ?

I'm tired and have had a stressful week- WH is reacting
badly to Plan B (ranting and raving about selling the
house now), I'm still in a precarious position with my
job, had skin treaments yesterday that have left me
uncomfortable, and locked myself out of the house this
morning... seems like everything hits all at once.
(I know you understand this !)

Know you have my continued support and prayers- you are
doing so well, as always.
Slammed

Thanks all for checking in. I am doing ok. I have been working loing hours and have not had much time to post or anything but pack.

I did find out about the second court date. My attorney says it is a mistake at the court house ad the 28 of this month is the day. I am not looking forward to it at all.

I did tell my SIL to let WH know he needs to come g et the two dogs this weekend. He then told her he can't have them where he lives now so he is gong ot have to make arrangements for them. I just don't understand all the moaning and groanoing over wanting them so bad now he is trying to figure a way to keep them. He also told her to tell me that our big screen tv won't make the trip to Va. He is tryng to get me to leave it for him. No way am I doing that, I will sell it first before I leave it for him and the bimbo. But for now I am taking it ad risking the trip. he is not gona manipulate me into giving it to him because it may break.

I am trying to finish up everything here in the house and get the rest into storage. been a job thats for sure.

Seems all of you are doing well. I am so gald to see that. Slammed my friend just a word of advice try and think of yourself the WH is not worth thinking about right now. I know easier said than done but for your own peace of mind you have to try.

Take Care all,

Hurting

Today WH has topped himself. Him and the bimbo showed up at his moms at 5 am to get his truck this morning it would not start.

So anyhow he c ame back at 6 am w ith a co-worker and they jumped the truck. He then asks his mom if she would take care of the dogs for him. Seems his friends don't have a fenced yard and he has no place to keep them until he finds a new place to live. His mom said WH I don't have room for them. BS will be here and with the 2 she is keeping and mine that is already four dogs. Now who's to say she may change her mind I don' know. He said to her that he is looking for a place to move too. Hope he does not find one until court is over...... Guess if they are looking for a place together to move things must be going good...... damn ...

I am just so tried, frustrated and angry right now. So many hours working and packing has just worn me down, not sure how much longer i can do it.... I don't sleep well or eat normal meals anymore.... I never in my life have ever endured such hours..... I am so angry I have to work like this because I have a [censored] for a H who just walked away with no caring at all...... I could drop tomorrow and he would not care...... I am frustrated bcause I can't find my way out of this mess, I just feel like its never gonna end...... I am so tired I can't laugh or even smile right now nothing makes me happy.....

Lets just face it I am just plain miserable......

(((Hurting))) I hope you get a very good night's sleep. I am sorry to here you are in a temporary funk.

I don't think I realized that you are going to be living with MIL (or is it just the dogs that are moving to her place) Is that temporary until you move closer to firstborn's place? For some reason, I cannot recall the abbreviation for older son (OS just doesn't look right)

jean,

I am staying with my MIL until I leave here to move to VA. Not sue how long that will be though. Once the D is over and I get the money from the settlement I am outta here.

I hope it wont take to long, I need a break from here and all the drama.... Plus I will be single person and have no desire to stay aroud here and watch my EXWH live his life with someone else.

maybe it will help me get over him quicker and move ahead. I know I will never loose all my love for him but maybe enough where i can be happy again.....

Hurting

okla,

I know this is a hard time right now. You are almost gone, and so close to it that you can taste it.

It is hard to have patience at this time. I know eggzactly how you feel. I am going thru it myself on a different level.

You have done all you can. Step back from all of this and do not react. Your MIL is a saint. This is a transition period for you and very stressful. Divorce and moving, no more kids, etc. And all at once. Take several deep breaths, because this is no easy thing. You are going thru THE most stressful thing in your life, plus you are moving and becoming an empty nester, and prematurely at that.

Give yourself a break. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I know how it is to work mass hours and have to move. It is not fun.

You are doing great, and you are awesome AND WORTHY. So take a few deep breaths, relax for an hour each day before you keep packing. And plan A MIL Don't LB her with all of yours stress. Vent to us, not MIL. You will look soooo good in the end. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I am sorry about the dogs. I didn't know you had 4!!!

It will be over in a little over a month.

God has a plan for you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Have faith. It WILL be better. I know how it feels to want to be out gone over, etc. You have a short time and things will be better.

It has been a hard plan B with all of the 'he said, and she said' business. Yikes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> You will be well rid of all of that soon.

Prayers for you and yours.

Love in Christ,
Miss M

(((((hurting))))

I know things are tough for you, but please try to hang in there! You have done an amazing job through all of this. I may not post to you often, but I keep up with your thread.

You are such a strong woman and have changed so much and accomplished so much. YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION TO ME AND MANY OTHERS HERE ON THIS BOARD!!!

Always hold your head up high, hurting, b/c you have done all you can do. And I agree with Miss M.... God DOES have a plan for you, for all of us.

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

(((((hurting))))
I'm going to Atlantic City tonight. I'll play a quarter just for you if I hit I'll split the Jackpot with you AFTER the D. (Don't want stupidalien or bimho to get any)

(((okla)))

I know you are working and packing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Sending prayers your way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Love in Christ,
Miss M

Miss M, Cha Cha and Mommy ,

Thanks to all of you for your prayers. I really need them at this time. I need all the strength I can get to make it out of this mess.

Packing is almost all done. I should have everything out of the house by tommorrow or tuesday at the latest. While I was at work yesterday WH came by here with DS. Since I was not home he came in the house to see DD. I wish I knew how he felt seeing everything we have packed up and ready to go out the door. DD says he didn't say anything or act any different but who knows hwo it really made him feel. Of course the way he has been acting he probably didn't care, as long as nothing of his was gone.

Again thanks all for being here for me.....

Hurting

What did you end up doing to his stuff. Leave it there for him to pack? Pack it in trash cans? There is a girl I work with at the hosp. her WH moved out to live w/ OW. She packed all his stuff up in large rubbermaid containers including the deer meat that was in the freezer. She divided the meat for the 8 containers. He was suppose to pick the containers up at 8 AM from the garage, the meat was frozen should be fine. He showed up 2 weeks later. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Now he can match the stench of OW!!(reminds me of orchid)

He is not planning on moving in there is he?