Not sure if others have noticed, but LOADS of WSes are involved in car accidents while in their affairs...I was...I totalled my car, in fact, had to get stitches right between my eyebrows...By the grace of God my DD was not in the car with me at the time...My decision making during that time quite clearly demonstrated me to be the unfit parent...If we decide to enter into a post nuptial agreement we will include a custody clause...

Mrs. W

Gonna play devils advocate here.

Mrs. W. Did that car accident make you an unfit parent or an unfit driver?

Well Drex...my being an unfit driver is certainly arguable any day of the week-LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />...

But seriously, prior to that time of my life I hadn't had any driving altercations since my teens...However, in that 3 mth. period I managed to get 3 traffic tickets...total a car...and then rear end another car in my brand new car(just a tap and no damage, but still)...I've had NO other incidents since the affair, so you tell me...

The list of irresponsible choices that I made back then, that most definitely affected my abilities as a parent, are quite honestly, too numerous to list...

I am of the opinion that the choice to have an affair does, in fact, necessarily cloud your abilities as a parent...there are a million reasons why I believe that...I don't wish to argue my opinion...Anyone that chooses to enter into a post nuptial agreement would certainly have the option not to include a custody clause...I'm just saying that Mr. W and I would...

Mrs. W

Okie, Mrs. W. I can appreciate where you're coming from. You still haven't convinced me though. Did you see my earlier post on this thread about one being a qualified parent changing over time? If so, what do you think in that situation?

Complete devils advocate, mind you. Not trying to flame anyone. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Wait...I didn't realize that was the goal at hand...Am I supposed to be convincing you about me or in general? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> LOL You'll just have to take my word for it about me...

I would say that under the circumstances that you suggested, the contract could be challenged, ultimately it would remain up to the judge based on the evidence presented...However, it is Mr. W that is the lawyer, and as a layman, I would not and could not even begin to argue contracts or statements of intent with anyone...

You aren't flaming me at all Drex...If you want my opinion as it pertains to your situation I'll offer it to you...I haven't read your story-but didn't you say that your (F?)WW had 19 affairs? Without knowing all the facts, I can make an educated guess that your wife has some issues that would certainly call into question her being the more fit parent...but I don't know you, so really I couldn't say...The great thing about a post nuptial agreement is that only you and your wife have to agree to the terms...ya know?

Mrs. W

Mrs. W. I'd love your opinion. Yes, I stated that she had 19 As. I also stated that I had one a long long time ago. I don't want to thread jack, though so after you've read up on me, if you would be willing to offer your opinion in another thread, that would be awesome. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I still use WW. I am as yet unconvinced of remorse and committment on her part. But... she has said nothing of D or leaving in roughly 2 weeks.