continue going in with the kids or without them. Stop in at odd times. Short visits, always looking excellent. Do not hide away. The best weapon is the reminder of the family, the adorable children, the faithful wife. The lovely, faithful wife. Be pleasant to the office staff and the teachers.

Is she married?

Thanks, everyone. Yes, she is married but her H has only heard hre side of the story, and is not interested in any evidence I have. Her H was actually very patronizing over e-mail when I asked if he wanted any details of what I'd discovered. We've never met in person. I read the thread on contact while looking for another job. We have been doing everything listed, as far as I know. Trust is still an issue, and I still don't know if i can believe that he would some home and tell me at 6:00 if she had been at a meeting at 7:30 AM. I guess this is going to take time, and I have to give him a chance to come forward with information. It's always been his way to do or say whatever it takes to avoid conflict. He will do whatever it takes to keep up appearances. Anyway, I have to learn to trust again, and that will take a long, long, long time. I hope our love is strong enough to keep me going until I can trust again...