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Is Justuss a his or a her? I've heard tell Justuss was an it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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AllsFair,
I'm sorry for the pain you're experiencing. I have compassion for you in that you're learning a very hard life's lesson.
If you choose to, you can come out of this a stronger better person.
My philosophy is only 10% is what happens to you, with the remaining 90% how you handle the situation. Make that 90% count as one lesson you'll never need to learn again.
God bless,
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Is Justuss a his or a her? I've heard tell Justuss was an it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> 2long: "And there's more!" audience response: "More!?? What could be worse that that?" 2long: "It's blind!" (you'd have 2 know that particular joke 2 get it) Back 2 you! -ol' 2long
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Is Justuss a his or a her? I've heard tell Justuss was an it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> eeeekkk! As opposed to a THING ?
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Not opposed to, SIMILAR TO! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
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2long: "It's blind!"
(you'd have 2 know that particular joke 2 get it) Nuttin' better than a blind moderator. LOL !
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AF,
Welcome to the "WAT Has TShirts Older Than Me" club. Honestly, I am proud to be a member.
You have done well in many areas: investigating the truth, and going to NC when you found you had been deceived.
I would encourage you to channel your anger in another direction than the now-anonymous blog. It will be very hurtful to the wife.
But at the same time I would never encourage you to cover his sin. If you want to expose him, mail and/or call the church elders where he attends, and those in positions of responsibility in the ministry. Speak to those in a position to do something, and let them decide how much is made public. If they are Godly men and women, they will want to find a balance between airing every detail and protecting this man's hurting family. But please leave that up to them.
All the best.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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Any clues as to some "keywords" that would enable access to the blog for those of us who missed the post???
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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sd maybe if you posted an email address someone might help you
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Well I am not going to congratulate you in the least. You sound just like my H's OW who said she is going to ruin his life for what he has done. Get on with your life and let this be a lesson to you not to get involved with a married man.
You must take responsibilty for you actions. You are a homewrecker plain and simple and no matter what exposure you do to the WH that will never change what you did. Satruday you were so in love, today your not. Shows your immaturaty to a tee.
You have sinned in the eyes of God. If I were you, I would be at church everyday asking for forgiveness, instead of asking us to forgive you. If you think that we are going to sympathize with you, you can forget it. You made your bed, now lay in it.
"I hurt myself today, to see If I still feel...I focus on the pain, the thing only thing that's real"... Johnny Cash.."Hurt"
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I didn't get the opportunity to check out the blog, but I just want to check in and say it's GREAT you've terminated the A, Allsfair.
Post-A, take time out from relationships for a while, and ask yourself what you deserve. If you have a strong sense of self esteem, you will see that a married man isn't it. It might even be time for you to work out some of these issues with a psych. In my opinion, it's no coincidence that your father cheated on your mother and you had your own A with a married man down the track: our minds have a funny way of helping us "work stuff out" sometimes.
"No power in the 'verse can stop me."
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Wait a minute - But I am really ticked off that he can do that as the religious authourity that he is supposed to be. This pondscum was a Pastor/Minister/Priest??????? Edited: Nevermind. WAT
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WAT,
Here ya go. Ask and ye shall recieve.
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Thanks, Eagle.
I recommend you edit it out as per Justuss' earlier determination.
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WAT,
Justuss has already been here.
Thank you Justuss!
"Never argue with idiots or WSs, They just drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"
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Eagle... can you send the blog site to me... baydog@zoominternet.netthanks
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I feel REALLY bad for the BW....
REALLY, REALLY bad....
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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I saw the blog. She has links to MB board and thanks Mrs. W.
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Thank you so much, Delean-De, for pointing out who the true aggrieved party is---
In watching this train-wreck of a girl thrash around, I've noticed that her blog and email to the WS is actually a shrouded attempt to "plan-B" him. She thinks if she "exposes" the fact that he is still married, that his BS will kick him out and he'll come running to her. I've read Hartley's stuff, and I cannot find anywhere advice to the OW to expose, beyond to the BS. This is sickening. An innocent woman, the BS, has been blind-sided by this. If you happened to read AllsFair's blog, which I don't advise, you'll notice that the BS is a business partner with the WS. Alls really has no right to bring the BS down in her rage. Sure, this guy, "R" (the WS) is a lieing, cheating, scumbag, but Alls was down there rutting around with him. She can fault the WS all she wants, but SHE is not innocent. Furthermore, I'd bet my life-savings that she secretly hopes the WS will leave the BS now, and come back to her. There is a lot of growing up that needs to happen here. Please don't congratulate this girl for more than finally recognizing that she needs to tell the BS. Everything else she has done has been for HER benefit, not for the BS. Certainly, this is a perverse use of the MB principles for her own gain.
Imanotherone
Me: BW-41
Toolman: WH: 43
DD:9, DS:5
OW:21
DDay:9/1/05
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imanotherone,
Very good insight.
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