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Hopefully, Justuss will shut down this thread, which has nothing to do with marriage building, but is just fodder for gossip mongers and trouble makers. What a sad, sad thread.

i think that telling the man's wife was the right thing to do

also, if he is a preacher (or something similar) then i think his "boss" should be told

anything other than that seems like it is just for revenge and too many innocent people (like his wife and family) will be hurt

allsfair

you were no better than this man

you both knew he was marraied and you both chose to have an affair-regardless of anything this man said to you.....you made the same imorral choice that he did

Trainwreck, indeed.

And thoroughly sickening.

Only a matter of time before it gets locked, removed and/or burned.

Please, ladies and gentlemen, don't you see what is happening here?

This post has goaded us into turning on each other to the point of paying attention NOT to MBing, but to picking at each other.

I wish the BW (and her WS if he is willing to work on their M) would find her way here.....While I agree the AF needs help, she IS not the betrayed nor is she a married WW.

But, sadly, SADLY, because AF IS here (and I have no doubt she's reading or checking here)....I despair that the BS will never come here as it is now unsafe. Sad, sad, sad.

AF - if you don't take down your site, please take down names and pictures....esp of the people you SAY he SAID he slept with....there is not ONE here that doesn't believe that waywards lie...we know that...EVERYONE knows that. You don't know what's what IN THOSE PEOPLE'S LIVES...and to drag all of them into this b/c HE SAID is cruel and lowbrow. As for his children.....I'm sure in your pillow talk (gag) that you said you'd care for them....funny way to show it....dragging them into this mess....STOW ALL THE WAY!

Lastly, you saying he told you how his married life was a mess...I DON'T CARE IF SHE WAS SWINGING FROM THE RAFTERS IN HER KNICKERS AT THE LOCAL PUB....it gives neither YOU nor HIM the right to corrupt their marriage. There is NO excuse grand enough, big enough, valid enough to be with a married person.

Amend your website. For her. For her children. For those people WHO YOU DON'T KNOW FOR CERTAIN had anything to do with him....and for you.

There is only One whom vengence can be taken by. Turn to Him...He WILL sort this mess out...you might not see it...but you can trust it's so.

- Kimmy

and i almost forgot.....

allsfair

why would you even consider a relationship with this man IF he did divorce his wife?

Doesn't change the fact that he's a cheater AND that he lied to you

His WIFE needed to be told... not *this* way, eav.

Any other exposure is up to his WIFE, not the OW.

Oh, and one other thing: If all of this is true, then the OM's responsibility would be to stand in front of his church to confess and repent... and if he's a minister, to step down.