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RB,

IMHO, your WS is playing the field and his words didn't have enough ring of truth to convince you he was sincere. Why? 'cus he wasn't.

That is what a WS will do. They are very selfish and will always look for others to meet their needs.

All the more reason to go to plan B ASAP. U ready?

I have been 'trying' to take an MB break but I do read up on your posts. U are getting stronger. Time to set your boundaries and implement.

When my Ws came home and tried to make 'nice', I fell for it at first. That lead to several false recoveries. Those hurt.


Later I learned how NOT to treat a WS with nice words. I would tell him, he sounds sincere but he doesn't 'smell' right. That confused him for a bit, just enough for me to shove him back out the door. LOL!!! It wasn't long before the WS showed up in his raging glory. I was glad I didn't fall for it but when the WS returned, I played his own words against him and cause him more confusion.

Later I would tell him to go find my H so I could have a convo with my H. That one sent him to tears. LOL!!!! I performed so well, even I was crying. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Anyways, putting holes through the fog, helped a bit but the real protection was going to plan B.

Let us know how you are doing.

take care,
L.

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My advice? Talk less. He wants recovery, let him present his POR (plan of recovery) 2 u. He needs to show you how he plans to earn back your trust. Expect him to whine about how hard it is and when he wants u t/d the all or most of the work, pull out the reverse babble and give him back his guilt.

When he is truly given his best, then you give yours. Time for you to practice patience. Hope you have that calm heart and clear mind 'cuz u r gonna need it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

take care,
L.