When I posted to create your own support group as long as it is legal, I meant that you don't want to resort or depend on support from any type of illegal sources. Getting the mafia to tail the WS and OP isn't a good idea. Ok? Also a support group for you c/b neighbors, children, family, friends, your pet cat, dog, co-worker, MC/IC doctor, pastor, new hobby, anything or those who can help you put the Ws issue's in a perspective you can handle.

Often the BS wants to take off on a tangent and some even want to post add signs exposing to the world the OW is a ditch. LOL!!! Not a real good idea but not to exposure is the other side of the pendulum. Better to have a clearn mind, calm heart and lots of patience. That way when you do have t/d something, it will have power, punch and give a lasting impressions that you won't regret.

JMHO,
L.

Okay, Taken, my mistake. My apologies. I didn't understand you'd been doing a Plan A for that long. If you worked Plan A for 3 months, that's the average length of time Dr. Harley recommends for women to do that phase. Since you have done that, it's entirely logical to go to Plan B.

I don't know exactly what you told your husband when you asked him to leave, but you might consider formalizing it with a "Plan B Letter." You can find a sample of one here:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...rue#Post1143897


Then we're back to the exposure thing. If you don't want to expose this obscene thing your husband is doing, you are taking your best weapon out of your hands. Adultery thrives in the darkness of secrecy. When the light of day is shown on it, it becomes far less appealing because everyone the adulterer respects KNOWS. They watch and wear disapproving expressions on their faces. The adulterer knows they're watching and knows they disapprove. His boss may become involved. He might be counseled or reprimanded. Don't shield him from the consequences of his adultery, Taken. Let him see the disapproval from others.

Suddenly there is all kinds of pressure his fantasy world with the OW never had to endure before. Pressure creates discontent. Discontent creates discord, and you want LOTS of discord between OW and your husband. Taking, please consider going the extra mile.