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Re: maybe it's not too hard to replace your spouse.....former WS can you give me your thoughts?
eav1967 #1661964 06/05/06 05:43 AM
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mimi

the book is "projection"....it's fiction

i realized that it's been over 2 months since i've had any kind of contact with my H-it's the longest that he's gone without contacting me at all (March 28th was his last contact with me)

i guess he's given up on the boys and realized that he isn't getting any financial help from me..........so i've got nothing left that he needs or wants

i gotta tell you.....it feels like he's over and done with "us"
Re: maybe it's not too hard to replace your spouse.....former WS can you give me your thoughts?
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Eav,

Try to focus on something else. Think about some things you can do for enjoyment.

He may or may not be back, but try to arrange your life with the expectation that he won't be there and gear up for a life without him.

You don't NEED him to be happy. You were happy before you met him. You PREFER to have him back, but it's only a preference, not a true need.

It's tough, I know. My wife just told me last night she wants a divorce. Whether she will still feel that way months from now is another question, but I am preparing my life as though it will happen.
Re: maybe it's not too hard to replace your spouse.....former WS can you give me your thoughts?
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i WASN'T happy before i was with my H.....i was very lost and very unhappy with my life

he helped me to make choices that led to my life/our life/ turing out the way that it did
Re: maybe it's not too hard to replace your spouse.....former WS can you give me your thoughts?
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for two people who seem to have so little in common, my H and OW seem to be lasting an awfully long time

although i am happy when i read here that someone has saved their marriage or that a WS has written a no contact letter....it's hard to read when things look so bad for me and my h
Re: maybe it's not too hard to replace your spouse.....former WS can you give me your thoughts?
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Then you definitely need to seek counseling so you can find happiness within yourself as opposed to getting it from external things.

You will never be truly happy if the source of your inner peace and happiness depends on someone else.
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thanks for your opinion

i'm done with counseling....been there done that and not doing it again
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