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Thanks all for posting,
Just so you know, I am not fishing for reasons to leave the marriage. I made the choice some months ago to stay married and work on recovery. Some of the factors that led to our marriage being in a state of vulnerability to an A are still factors. So I should have asked. What were some of the things as step-parents that helped to recover your marriage? IYHO
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I am going to leave this thread because I can't answer your questions from a personal perspective. I think Dorry had a pretty good answer for you. I have to believe that your reasons for staying in the marriage are pretty much the same whether they are kids or stepkids.
The only downside I can see for you is that you might feel an extra obligation. In other words, you love the kids and you know they were hurt once and it would devestate you to see them hurt yet again and feel that you had a part in it. My personality might make me stay in the marriage for that reason alone. In fact, I am faced with a similar situation in my own case. If it weren't for my kids, I would definitely be gone. That is just the way I feel right now. I hope that changes. It could.
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