I do not believe that honesty is insignificant. I hold it as the most important thing in a relationship.

You have every right to know when he has seen the OW even though the A has ended.

You can babble right back at him. Listen you telling me you saw OW today is much better then me finding out you saw OW yesterday. IF you tell me I think you have nothing to hide you are transparent. If you don't tell me then I think you MAY have something to hide and that hurts me.

I KNOW that I can only trust you if you are completely honest. I hope you want me to trust you enough to be honest with me.

I finally got radical honesty when I told her that her dishonesty doesn't really affect me anymore. It affects her. If she can live the rest of her life with me not trusting her that is on her she owns that. I will not trust you until you are honest!! Do not ask me to do anything that would require me to trust you because I will not agree to it. When I don't agree to it do not try to put it off on me, I will not accept that either. Fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me. You will not fool me into trusting you. You can however earn my trust through transparency and radical honesty. Your choice not mine.