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One more thing...the other woman seems very concerned about her marriage. Don't you think that exposing her might push the two of them together? I'm sure she is already MAD as HE^% that my husband's lie might cost her her job. My sister in law has already met with her boss. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Exposing her will ruin the affair. Affairs thrive on secrecy, so keeping her secret protects her affair. You are enabling her affair with your own H. I would also give her boss a call and let her hear about the affair from the horses mouth.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hubby's parents know...but they are huge enablers. It kind've bothers me that he is over there getting "taken care of" and not having any of the "real" duties that we all have to do in the real world.
They know he is wrong...they even try to support me...but think mostly then enable him.
Pray for our counseling session to go ok tonight. I had told hubby I needed to know EVERYTHING and he wants to wait to see what the counselor thinks about that.
BTW...my SIL did let her boss know what was going on. This was last week so I don't know what has happened since then. MY BIL is determined to see a lawyer because of the breech of confidentiality.
BW (me) 32
WH 32
Married 7,5 years; DD 4, DD 12
1st Dday - 10/99
2nd Dday - 5/03
This Dday - 5/24
years of an internet EA - A was supposedly ended whe it happened in 03???
This last EA is continuing with the same person the 2nd one did.
Starting marriage counseling 6/1/06
WH living with mom (after I kicked hin out) and attanding personal counseling.
Plan A since 5/31
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Sad, I think if he has had this many affairs, that there are many MORE enablers in his life than just his parents. That is evidenced by your reluctance to tell the OWH the truth. This is a way of life for him that has continued because there are never consequences. When people help others hide their wrongdoing, this is the result.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Well, he has a knack for turning things around. He is saying right now that he doesn't think it's healthy for me to ask him for 100% of the truth/details regarding the situation. He wants to let the counselor decide that.
I do agree that he really hasn't had any consequences. He is staying at his mom's...but that gets him out of his adult responsibilities to our family more than anything.
I'm so worried about Love Busting that I am being "fakey" nice to him when he is around. What I really feel like doing is screaming at him to look at what he has done to our family.
It's hard to avoid him because we work together and have kids. Should I act indifferent or nice like I have been?
It seems weird that I was hurt to the extend I was but I have not had the opportunity to "rage" on him. He probably is thinking he dodged a bullet.
BW (me) 32
WH 32
Married 7,5 years; DD 4, DD 12
1st Dday - 10/99
2nd Dday - 5/03
This Dday - 5/24
years of an internet EA - A was supposedly ended whe it happened in 03???
This last EA is continuing with the same person the 2nd one did.
Starting marriage counseling 6/1/06
WH living with mom (after I kicked hin out) and attanding personal counseling.
Plan A since 5/31
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