((( Healing )))

I am just now seeing this post... sorry for responding so late.

Please do not think that your WH is sitting around eating bon bons with the OW, far from it.. I believe the man is in pain and probably feels trapped in some way.. and, we both know that his pride is keeping him from doing the right thing.

Wow - Healing, you sound great, really you do.....

Pep is right ~~

We love you !!!

your friend, carnation

DO NOT put down your beloved cat!!!!

Cats can be rehomed -- it's not that hard! I can tell you how.

I am planning a move in the near future -- and the top priority for my new home will be keeping a large silly dog and three cats (two of them 13-years-old).

I will live in a shack, but the menagerie stays. They have been more loyal to me than my husband and friends! I will not be unfaithful to them!

Not negotiable!

so much has happened in the last few days and I don't have time to post it all now but to let everyone know the cat situation has been taken care of. She is not being put down she is going to a new home. My MIl is keeping her.

I wish I could have taken her with me but I can't. But she will be fine.

I am leaving this evening to take my DD to Indiana to my ODS and his wife. Suffice it to say its for her protection from an abusive boyfriend. WH tried to play hero in all of this by claiming him and OW would take her but he was told his services were not needed. he has not been a dad for all these months and I do not need him now to step in and try and look like the good guy. He didn't want to help before I don't need it now. Especially when he is going to involve the OW in the plans. I don't want that bimbo no where around my grandchildren.

Anyhow I will post later and let everyone know what happened....


Hurting

Bless your MIL! Its great news about the cat!

I'm glad you can be there for your DD. Take care and let us know how it goes.

don't worry...it is going to be fine. it is scary starting over...but it is also exciting too.

and it is not a bad thing. your wh is broken and he has to want to fix himself. so far he doesn't choose that.

you choose happiness. you choose freedom. you choose your family and children. you choose to smile. you choose morality. he does the opposite.

i predict he and ow crash within 3 mos. of your leaving. just my .02.

but this move is not for that. it is for you to make a clean start. if the ws repents and TRULY CHANGES...he can do it for all the right reasons and will show it. but don't look for it in the interim. he's still foggy.

let them crash to their own devices. let his whole world fall. it's about to happen. he needs to see it occur. it will FINALLY BE REAL FOR HIM THEN.

and you will get much needed time, space, and breathing room away from the infidels. time to regroup, refocus, and refresh YOURSELF! i love ya hon and want you to be renewed right now. you deserve nothing but real love and happiness .

Cha Cha,

thanks we will take care and I will let ya know how it all goes...

peachy,

All I can say is I love ya girl...... it is what it is and i can't change it but I can make me happy again......


Hurting

Hurting,

To relocate a cat, you must keep her in the same room for the first day or two. GRADUALLY, let her out into the other rooms of the house, one or two at a time. DO NOT let her outdoors. They become very disoriented, and can't get their bearings. That's when they disappear.

Bring a dirty litter box. Bring things that have the familiar smells into the new locale. Once they get oriented into the new house, and learn where the food dish, etc., is (don't wash them when you move them) -- after a few days, let them out very experimentally and keep an eye on them.