Are we just making excuses though? I don't know, I have given a lot of thought to that lately. I know it is hard, working and taking care of the house and child to find time to "find a new circle of friends." My advice to the both of us is to 1) stop making excuses and just take that first step and 2) call on our old friends, I am sure we would be surprised at how much fun we would have!
I think a little of both. It's hard to implement so many personal changes when you're reeling from a huge blow to your self esteem. When I was young and met my husband, it was different. I had lots of girlfriends and we'd go out together. It's so much easier to socialize in new situations and flirt when you're dragging your posse of GF's behind you. But I will eventually be brave and venture out into the unknown.
I have actually met some guys, not as BF's but just in passing. I was trying out bicycles at an outdoor sports place and had a really nice long talk with the salesman. He is also divorced, has always vacationed in the same place as us, a lot of similarities. Not my type physically but a nice person. I made sure to drop that in the conversation with WEx. He wanted to know how I knew he was divorced and how I got all this info about him. I told him I'm a magnet! I also met a guy shopping for a new car. He is also divorced, has a boat, etc. etc. I played that up big. Oh yeah ________ wants me to buy a such and such. Oh yeah, he has a boat on the lake, he's divorced too, blah blah blah. WEx seemed to be a little angry about this guy. I left notes around the house "call _____".
So somedays I feel great and I'm really looking forward to meeting somebody or having a fabulous NEW passionate relationship with Wex, but some days, like when I wrote the above, seem very grim and hopelelss.
You're right - time to get out more!!
Thanks for droppin' in Kim. I'll check your thread.
S.