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Thank you, everybody, for your prayers, kind words and support. I don't know why I'm not falling apart into a sobbing heap. I guess I'm still in shock. I cried a few times yesterday. OMG, it's going to be awful signing that paperwork for the cremation today. I remember how hard it was doing that for Dad, just two and a half years ago. At least I have great friends at my office who will be there with me...
I tend to get into the "take care of business" mode when bad things happen like this, which helps me get through it I guess. I was like that when XH first left, too. I've got a call into my counselor. Hopefully she can see me today.
I guess it feels selfish to be sad. I KNOW Mom is in a better place now. She doesn't have to worry about the chronic pain and fibromyalgia and multiple other health problems anymore. She will never hurt again, and that is such a blessing to know. The Monday night before she went to the hospital, when I was talking to her, she said, "I'm just so tired of hurting all the time." EVERY DAY was painful for her. Sometimes, it was so bad that she couldn't even get out of bed. She would just try to sleep all day so she didn't have to face it.
She doesn't have to worry about money or her emotionally abusive BF. She can look down and see us and DD anytime she wants, plus she's up there with Dad, Grandma and Grandpa. A few days ago, her nurse told my aunt that "someone" was there in the hospital room with her, watching over her and talking to her. The nurse actually said she felt a presence. I don't know how I feel about psychic stuff, but it was said that Mom had a gift, and it gives me comfort to think about that.
(Formerly SadMommy05)
BS, 29 (me)
XH, 27
DD, 1
M, 2001 high school sweethearts
OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06 
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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So sorry about your mother, SadMommy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm so very, very sorry about your mom, Sadmommy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
I hope it is a comfort to know she's no longer in any pain and that she is with loved ones.
(((Sadmommy)))
VERY HAPPY! FBS/FWS; 47yo; M-29 yrs.; DS-26,DD-21; our affairs: 1990-'96
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I'm so sorry to hear the news, SadMommy. You are very young to have lost both your dad and mom. Just know that there is no more pain and suffering for your mother.
I know that she loved you and would want you to have a good life. When a person gets older, and have raised their children, that is the most important thing for them.
I'll pray that God will comfort you and your brothers.
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OMG, I'm so sorry. You have been through so much lately, it is unbelievable...
Please take care of yourself.
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She was only 48. Her mom died at 46, and my dad died a couple years ago (will be three this January) at the age of 51.
(Formerly SadMommy05)
BS, 29 (me)
XH, 27
DD, 1
M, 2001 high school sweethearts
OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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What did your WH say that bothered you? Is he being supportive at all?
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I am so so very sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.
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me BS 37
WH 36
DS 5
Newborn 11 mos
Married 11+ years
WH EA/PA(??) with co-worker 5/05 -- present???
Found evidence of PA with OW on 6/23/06 however WH denies everything
D-day: 1/11/06 (less than two weeks after 10th anniversary)
Reconciled 2/12/06 but WH still works closely with OW
WH left 6/5/06 (broke up via phone)
Reconciled again 7/7/06 and working on our marriage.
Separated once again 10/9/07 (OW still working with WH)
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I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. She was so young and taken far too soon. She is with her FAther now and in no pain. My prayers to you all.
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{{{{SadMommy}}}}
It is always so hard to lose someone you love. My prayers are with you.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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(((( Sadmommy))))
I am so sorry about the loss of your mom. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Hurting
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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(((Sadmommy)))
When you didn't post last night I was worried. I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My MIL died from complications form sepsis as well. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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oh dear my condolences <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Pep
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Peace to you and yours...
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I'm so saddened by your news. Your mum (and dad) were so young. You must be in shock. Take care of yourself and accept any offers of help that come your way to help you whilst you grieve such an untimely loss. God bless. TT
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I'm sorry to hear about you mom. My condolences go out to you.
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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Dear Mom,
My deepest sympahty to you and your family. This is a hard trial in your life, may you find comfort in your love, cherished memories and beliefs you gained from your mom. Along with the support of family and friends.
This hard time hurts but later you will see the strength it gives so that you can use it to teach your little one when the time comes how to respect, love and live her life.
Hugz,
LeAnne
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My prayers are for you and your family. Your mother sounded like a courageous women. The Lord loves you all....Blessings...LoveinHim
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Dear Sadmommy,
my deepest sympathy and condolences.
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Sad,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
My deepest sympathy goes out to you at this a very difficult time in your life.
Please realize you have a place to come for support when you need it.
BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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