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Well, try to take away the control from him, try not to react emotionally, be direct and matter of fact in your dealings with him. In fact, don't even talk about, with him, his messages to you. I think he knows that you are moving on and it is starting to sink in what he did. Doesn't mean he'll come back, I don't mean it that way, I mean you are starting to let him know, emotionally, that you will not be there for him, you are not his friend. He wants his cake...
Your doing great, have a good night.
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Thanks NabO for the listening ear and kind advice tonight.
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Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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intexas,
can you change your cell number? I know you don't want to do plan b to win him back, but maybe a modified plan similar to plan b where there is no contact and the visitation, communication, etc is handled by a mediator?
I, too, wonder if you can file something along the lines of harrassment against him. It might be worth checking into.
Hang in there. This surely has been a long ride for you.
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Don't think I can change the cell number, as he has to reach me b/c of the boys. I don't have a home line. He has left me alone for 24 hours now. It's been nice. I don't think i'd ever file harrassment charges. I can't help but think that my abiliy to be so calm, collected, and nice with wh through all this crap might somehow be God wanting him to continue to have an example of Christian (not romantic) love. I cling to the promises that God loves him just as He loves me. On a side note, to distract myself from the craziness of school, work, job-hunting, house-selling and WH-antics, I took some pics of the baby--he's 5 months now. I'll try to link one here. I'm really wanting to get into photography. Watcha' think of my precious little Elliot? He's a cutie! Elliot--5 months!
BW-me, 29
XH, 29
3 sons-now 6,4,2
Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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(Ben is visiting my parents in ohio, so I knew he would want to know.) in texas - don't know that I picked up on this before, but reading back over your thread....I, too, am in texas (the big-H) and am from ohio! The picture of Elliot is great!!! You have talent girl...Not to mention a great subject!!! Regards, BB
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Hey InTexas.
Sorry I have kind of dropped off the radar lately. These last few weeks have been crazy, I usually pop on here long enough to post on recovery and thats about it.
I'm glad your WH atleast left you alone for 24 hours. That's a start. You may have already answered this but can you get an intermediary so he can contact them about the boys instead of you?
By the way, the pic of Elliot is adorable. We need to get together again soon, I will drive up your way this time. There is a mexican restaurant there that I love.
Take care and I am keeping you in my thoughts.
None are more unjust in their judgments of others than those who have a high opinion of themselves.
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Intexas....Eliot is adorable <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
now for the WS....???
MAKE COPIES OF ALL ELECTRONIC COMMUNIQUES...AND VOICE MAILS...give all evidence to the lawyer.. and use it as evidence for more MORE CS AND FULL CUSTODY. Yea. This man is bonkers and immoral and doesn't want to be daddy.
On one hand he wants ow...on other hand he wants kids/family...then he doesn't want to be daddy...
he's sick girl.
I love the comment about how YOU SHOULD REMARRY...and have the kids call THAT GUY DAD...as it was YOUR FAULT.
Wrongo! IT'S THE ZOMBIE'S FAULT..AND HE'S BEHAVING LIKE A ZOMBIE. Zombie WS's do NOT make good parents.
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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Hey InTexas, Just a quick note, I'm glad you had a good day yesterday <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. I hope and pray that you have many more in the near future! nab
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What a darling baby in a basket! Big smiles here.
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Intexas, I've been catching up on your thread. Please DO NOT be embarrassed about your WH not being a "good man" like you thought and not seeing the signs before. I had to go through this battle with myself, and I have come to the conclusion that we see what we want to see in people. Please don't beat yourself up over it.
And I agree with others on here about saving every wacko communication and turning it over to your lawyer. This is just more proof that your WH is unstable and could be very helpful to your case. You've gotta protect your boys! (and BTW, Elliot is ADORABLE!!!)
(Formerly SadMommy05)
BS, 29 (me)
XH, 27
DD, 1
M, 2001 high school sweethearts
OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06 
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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Adorable!! I can't believe he is 5 months old already...I remember when you were prego.
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WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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I wish I could see him, but company's firewall prohibits it... I love babies <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />
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