Thank you AHuman, FF and Dorry, all good stuff.

I am going to print out EMN's post and work on it.

Basically, that's the "more later". I have a lot to think about, not just EMN's post, ALL your posts.

How are things going today Jen <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Things are going fine Dorry. I've just got home from work.

Kiwi/Jen,

Honesty coming out here.

But I thought it might be better received from my alter personality.

I have posted on this thread already once, but not under this persona that you know. I had to use another one from my work because they would no less than send me packing if they could see into my psyche over the last year.

I had to protect myself to some degree but still wanted you to know how I really felt about your situation.

You know it’s for both of us Kiwi.

One, I would really enjoy hearing that you and your H are doing spectacularly on a level that’s measured in one unit; that being the rest of your natural lives together. This is because I YEARN for good to prevail now more than ever before in my life.

Second, I feel that by helping you I can be helping you and your H. This makes me feel as if my contribution to the human race, no matter how slight, was something none-the-less. Balance is slowly restored to the universe.

At this point I understand infidelity to be a quiet epidemic that is slowly killing good families all over the world. Nobody is excluded to vulnerability in this insidious cancer of the family unit and I want to do my part to learn and help others about it.

So, yes, I am sorry that I posted to you under the alias of another but my words were sincere and hopefully will carry meaning with you because you know I really care.

I wish you well.

Plank.

Oh heck, I thought it was someone else. That person is going to think I'M NUTS because I e-mailed them to thank them. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Plank, it did help me, it helped me more than you can imagine. I talked to Rob about it this morning, it's opened the doors to talking again and talking the RIGHT way. Not the "it's always about me" way. The "what can I do for YOU way." The "how can I help YOU" way.

Part of me nearly went the smart [censored] way and was going to reply with "what do you mean it's not about me - IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT ME." but I was too serious about taking on board what you wrote. Two of my MB friends will find the all about me comment hilarious and I was almost expecting smartass remarks from them.

You were the first and only person to REALLY say what it is I should be doing. You were the first and only person who didn't talk about "fog" but told me what I really sounded like.

Everything was getting muddied by the fact that I was getting very, very frustrated and hurt with being deliberately misunderstood and that's why I kept trying to put the facts straight which just kept adding to the fire. I only use words to lash out and it was frustration that made me do it. I apologise sincerely to the two posters to whom I was so offensive and hope they'll forgive me.

Thank you Plank. Friend, indeed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />