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22: do not read this post, it might make you laugh ! 23: take yourself very, very seriously 24: think about life as being full of problems, not just situations 25: don't look into the mirror and make funny faces at yourself (no, don't go and try it! no!) (rats, too late) 26: don't kick yourself in the *** and tell yourself to get a life 27: take everthing personally <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Haha thanks Pep. A friend of mine once asked someone to write down how to best get depressed and how to make sure you wouldn't get out of the depression again, and the result was somewhat similar. Actually, it turned out to be a very long list and a lot of work!
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28. When faced with a difficult decision, wait until those around you make it. They know what's best for you and will act in your best interest.
29. When feeling unhappy, sad, or bored--eat and watch television.
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30. If something offends you, it is the thing's fault. Defend yourself:lash out or retreat. DO NOT consider WHY it offends you; this would require facing what it touches inside of you!
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31. Bear grudges, never forgive, hate people
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32. when in pain & misery ... do NOT seek out expert help
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Well, this thread was a welcome laugh and kick up the whoopsy for me!
And Pep - I love Bernie Siegel's Love, Medicine and Miracles. Yeah Tam that book was a watermark read for me in person, as a speaker, he has a ton of charisma I saw Bernie speak, as well as Elizabeth Kubler-Ross <~~~ and she , quite suprisingly, was a major snooze fest in person !! While Bernie was a firecracker. I made a mental note to self *when doing public speaking be upbeat and lively *even if* talking about cancer/death/taxes LOL Pep
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Thanks for staying on track with the numbers... One of my pet peeves.. taking notes at a lecture or talk..and the person says..I have three points and they only name two or give four... And I was guilty of this on this thread... Mimi...still learning to color outside the lines... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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28. When faced with a difficult decision, wait until those around you make it. They know what's best for you and will act in your best interest. 28 - A when others make the decision for you, complain bitterly about them being controlling
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33. Put other people, or activities, be it work, hobbies, or any other "thing" before your spouse.
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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99,5. Worry about details and forget about the larger picture
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34. Come to www.marriagebuilders.com and declare that everyone that follows MB principles are members of an outlandish cult and then tell them that "there is more that one way to skin a cat"! After all, your own UNIQUE way of doing things has proven so incredibly successful thus far... -I personally tested this one, after making email contact with OM for "closure" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />...Worked like a champ to keep SELFISH ME miserable longer, while having the added "benefit" of STABBING my husband AGAIN!!! NICE... DUH!!! Banging your head against a wall is such fun, especially when you can get two for the price of one by banging your spouse's head against the same wall at the very same time...<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> OI VEY!!!
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35. Don't learn to laugh at yourself like piojitos, instead take yourself VERY seriously and get mad at everyone else who doesn't 36. tune out your spouse, works every time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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37: Don't take responsibility for your own happiness, but rather give that responsibility to someone else.
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38. Maintain a focus on the OP rather than your own personal growth and development.
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39 - Remember...recovery is for emotional 'weaklings'...just forgive yourself and move on.
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Ok...can't sleep...way too much coffee tonite!
40. Under no circumstances ever try to work THROUGH anything...work around it, pretend it never happened, or get over it...but never, never work through it.
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I made a mental note to self
*when doing public speaking be upbeat and lively *even if* talking about cancer/death/taxes
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41. Give credence and value to the WORDS of a WS.
42. Deny the NECESSITY of a NC LETTER, EXTRAORDINARY PRECAUTIONS and RULES OF PROTECTION as ALL being key aspects of TRUE RECOVERY.
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43. NEVER expose infidelity to the betrayed spouse
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44. The best way to build up your bank account is to hoard it all and NEVER GIVE any away.
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DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.
Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.
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