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Re: Help! WS had A. Want to save my marriage... DELETED MelodyLane #1698231 06/27/06 11:01 AM
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Re: Help! WS had A. Want to save my marriage... Rosemary53 #1698232 06/27/06 11:27 AM
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Shaden Member S Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 928	Quote This morning I told him that I felt so alone. He hugged me and said 'you're not alone, you have me'. It felt sincere when he said it. Yes, I'm sure he does still love and care about you. That is extremely positive. But until the A is busted up, NC is made and kept, and he is out of the fog, your M is still in danger. My W came home and sat on my knee and held me after spending time with OM. She was confused and wanted both worlds. You can still save this M. But you have to make sure it is over. Right now he can live both worlds. Shaden BH (Me) - 38 WW - 36 Married - 16 years 2 children - 10,12 DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended. 11/07/05 - exposed to OMW... 07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing. 09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM. Patience with God is Faith. Patience with myself is Hope. Patience with others is Love. FAITH REQUIRES ACTION!

Re: Help! WS had A. Want to save my marriage... Rosemary53 #1698233 06/27/06 11:31 AM
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MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Quote I believe that her husband has moved out because she wanted my husband to move in with her. Her ex has agreed to pay half of her rent until she gets on her feet. And the fact that my husband has been over there. This morning I told him that I felt so alone. He hugged me and said 'you're not alone, you have me'. It felt sincere when he said it. Rosemary, you need to get ahold of this man. He can be your greatest ally in busting up this affair. Just because she wanted your H to move in does not mean he has moved out. Her H might not want to pay for anything if he finds out she is having an affair. And, of course, this might all be a lie. Either way, you need to talk to him. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: Help! WS had A. Want to save my marriage... DELETED MelodyLane #1698234 06/27/06 11:42 AM
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Re: Help! WS had A. Want to save my marriage... DELETED Rosemary53 #1698235 06/28/06 07:49 AM
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Re: Help! WS had A. Want to save my marriage... Rosemary53 #1698236 06/28/06 08:22 AM
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Shaden Member S Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 928	Quote Last night he came home and told me that he's ready to move forward and work on things together. What is your plan for moving forward? Moving forward for you should include... - A NC letter, agreed to by you, sent to the OW. - Agreement for MC and/or IC - A transparent marriage... not a prison... but if he wants to move forward, he must understand that he needs to regain your trust. ...other suggestions from the vets would be helpful. Shaden Last edited by Shaden; 06/28/06 08:23 AM. BH (Me) - 38 WW - 36 Married - 16 years 2 children - 10,12 DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended. 11/07/05 - exposed to OMW... 07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing. 09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM. Patience with God is Faith. Patience with myself is Hope. Patience with others is Love. FAITH REQUIRES ACTION!

Re: Help! WS had A. Want to save my marriage... DELETED Rosemary53 #1698237 06/30/06 12:42 PM
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Re: Help! WS had A. Want to save my marriage... DELETED Orchid #1698238 06/30/06 04:10 PM
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MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	She brought her husband [WS] here prematurely so I imagine that has something to do with it. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

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