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An idea:
Your ex is going to marry the OW.
Can you decide to accept that?
I don't think being in denial is working out so well.
So call the soon-to-be new wife and just ask to talk to her about son's activities. You would like to be able to schedule son for some of the activities that he used to do before the divorce...it isn't his fault, so he should not be punished for it. Could she talk to ex about choosing one of the activities that he could continue to do? For example, could he still participate in soccer, but of course if he needs to miss a couple of games here and there because of family outings, that is to be expected.
Tell her that you accept that she will be involved in son's life, but she and Ex have to accept that son still has a life too and they can't ignore it.
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Why should she discuss this with the OW? Or a new wife even if she weren't an OW? This is a matter to be discussed among the mother, the father, and the child. It is ridiculous and degrading for her to call the OW and beg her to allow the child to be allowed to continue in one of his activities. The child should be allowed to continue in every single one of his previous activities - in my state, one of the goals of the separation agreement and of child support is to allow the children to continue to have the lifestyle they had before the divorce.
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Unfortunately I just found out WXH and OW may in fact be lurking on this forum, and since my attorney is reopening the custody/support issues in light of the recent events which have negatively impacted our son, I must delete my posts. Thank you for all your advice and support.
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