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Re: Sorry and CO--Come in here
silverpool #1699713 07/25/06 01:46 PM
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Linda,

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Wow - you HAVE come along way Sarah, good post, you have managed to get past some of the anger and are on a smoother place in the roller coaster.


Thanks - it's good to hear <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />! I do feel Dwain and I are finally making some progress. I hated being stuck in a rut.

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in fact right now there is a thread with a lot of veterans who advise us, and they are talking about still feeling resentment 10 years down the road.


Wow, 10 years. They must be miserable. There is no way I will be miserable for that long. I just won't let that happen.

We're still waiting for our results back from the enrichment questionnaire we took so we can begin M counseling together. I am optimistic about the counseling! I hope it continues to move us forward.

--Sarah

BS (me) 30
Ex-FWH (iamsosorry) 32
Married 1997
DD, 10; DD, 6
A - PA 10/8/05 - 11/23/05?? - will never know the whole truth!!
ILYBNILWY speech - 11/10/05 - the day before my Birthday.....Happy Birthday to me!
D-Day - 11/23/05 - Happy Thanksgiving to me!
D-Day 2 - 4/10/06 - Happy Easter to me! (First time I found out it wasn't a ONS as he's been telling us all)
Divorced - finalized 7/07
Re: Sorry and CO--Come in here
moveforward #1699714 07/25/06 01:49 PM
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moveforward,

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What he didn't understand then was that everytime he evaded or refused to answer to protect me that I imagined it to be so much worse that it was.


Yeah, Dwain didn't understand this either. I even explained to him the other day when we were discussing answering questions, could anything possibly be worse than him actually having the affair in the first place???? I don't think so!

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Sometimes, the answer to a question will trigger another question, so don't be surprised if she thinks of something else.


Thanks for warning Dwain of this. I'm really trying not to delve into the answers I've received so I don't have more questions. But, you're right, it does trigger more questions.

--Sarah

BS (me) 30
Ex-FWH (iamsosorry) 32
Married 1997
DD, 10; DD, 6
A - PA 10/8/05 - 11/23/05?? - will never know the whole truth!!
ILYBNILWY speech - 11/10/05 - the day before my Birthday.....Happy Birthday to me!
D-Day - 11/23/05 - Happy Thanksgiving to me!
D-Day 2 - 4/10/06 - Happy Easter to me! (First time I found out it wasn't a ONS as he's been telling us all)
Divorced - finalized 7/07
Re: Sorry and CO--Come in here
cheated_on #1699715 07/28/06 01:32 AM
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Remember if the pain swoops back on you and you want to yell about something - yell at me - I promise to help you get it all out, so you can return to your world, relieved of the stress and calm refreshed and cool as a cucumber.

Linda

Me BSx2 63

1st M 13yrs WS Multiple As.

DD45 DD43 DS41 first marriage.

Him WS 56 P/A. PA + Multiple EAs from day one.

Current M. 26years

D Days 10/02, 11/02, 01/03, right up to 03/06

NC since 03/2006

Me Stage IV Breast Cancer since 36months,

Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us (Hebrews 12:1).Titus wife, Linda
Re: Sorry and CO--Come in here
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It's been awhile since I've written. Things are still really up and down with the M. We start our M counseling next week.

I haven't heard from Michele (GladtoPressOn). Are you still around? I miss hearing from you!

How are you doing Linda?

--Sarah

BS (me) 30
Ex-FWH (iamsosorry) 32
Married 1997
DD, 10; DD, 6
A - PA 10/8/05 - 11/23/05?? - will never know the whole truth!!
ILYBNILWY speech - 11/10/05 - the day before my Birthday.....Happy Birthday to me!
D-Day - 11/23/05 - Happy Thanksgiving to me!
D-Day 2 - 4/10/06 - Happy Easter to me! (First time I found out it wasn't a ONS as he's been telling us all)
Divorced - finalized 7/07
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