It sounds like you've got some good information and may be able to track her down. Definitely talk to her husband, and if you have her parent's names, that would be great, too.

One thing to keep in mind when you expose -- ask for that person's help. It's not a "Hey... did you know..?" kind of thing -- that just sounds like mean gossip. You should let whoever you're telling know that you want to save your family and your marriage and ask if they will help you.

Good luck!

WH's A: 1/18/06 - ???? D-Days: 3/28, 4/14 (false recovery), 9/5 8/11 -- WH announces that he doesn't love me anymore. 9/5, confirmed A was renewed, PBL & re-exposure which gets him investigated. He refuses to move out and gets blatant with the A. 10/15, “Plan F-U”. Yuck. But it did start some talking. C w/OW continued until ....? MC with SH 11/24, WH says he loves me. Making progress. My own and with us.