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Roll those girlies up and stick 'em in a push-up!

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... some are long.

Roll those girlies up and stick 'em in a push-up!

Now that quote came from a 6 year old....not me. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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...a six year old living in a country where bra-less is common. No matter the age!

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Funny, funny, funny.

My XW had fake ones. She did it for her, not for me. I'm partial to au naturel - since I'm losing my hair and I don't care. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Yo Jo - did the video not work? tap, tap, tap

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Funny, funny, funny.

My XW had fake ones. She did it for her, not for me. I'm partial to au naturel - since I'm losing my hair and I don't care. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Yo Jo - did the video not work? tap, tap, tap

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May you have sun on your face and water in your shoes.

I stand corrected.....WAT u r a brave man! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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My rules:

1. No pain.

2. Never do anything painful for someone else's pleasure.

3. Breasts are precious and shouldn't be tampered with unless it's for babies nursing, cancer screening or surgery.

5. Men who pressure women to get boob jobs need to get over themselves.

6. If it's something you want and you don't mind the pain, GO FOR IT. Just like any plastic surgery -- I'm all for doing whatever YOU want to do to feel good about yourself.



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Do you all think this might be a mid-life crisis thing? I mean H is also talking about impractical sports car that we can't afford...etc. Maybe my own insecurities are pushing me into a crisis as well.


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Do you all think this might be a mid-life crisis thing? I mean H is also talking about impractical sports car that we can't afford...etc. Maybe my own insecurities are pushing me into a crisis as well.

Your breast should not be his MLC issues. Yea....it c/b...all the more reason to NOT get taken by his demands.

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Some of this came up while we were reading HNHN (attractive wife chapter). He's not insisting on it and I am trying to consider his preferences as legitimate ones. I did tell him that I would consider it after our marital problems were mended. In the past, my major LBs were not listening or considering his needs, so he stopped communicating them to me. He's finally opening up...do I negate his feelings now that he's expressed them?


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I'm just wondering What Do YOU Want?

I'm sort of thinking asking our opinion, sort of suggests you don't want it. I sure wouldn't do anything like that unless I was doing it for ME.


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What do I want? I'd like to feel more confident in my appearance again. I'd feel selfish and superficial. I'd probably feel more willing to expose my body to my H without feeling self conscious about the lack of firmness...etc. I don't know. Some days I think I really want this and others I think there's no way. It won't hurt to dwell on it a year or so.


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vows,

So you know...I had a breast reduction 2 years ago...I had it mainly for the weight and sheer size...BUT I also had it in the hopes I would feel less self concious about my body, more in proportion and more comfortable...

While I like them so much better, and things fit better, and they are perky - I do not feel more self confident about my appearance. they are definately a huge improvement...but my self confidence needed to come from elsewhere....

Consider that in your OWN personal decision...

ps. I have nothing against fake boobs <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I have more agains the reasons you may get them. I know many with them - esp ones who had them not TOO large, but in good proportion with their bodies...to give them some shape.


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My WW has them. They were definitely for her and not for me. I don't really like large breasts and she did not get large ones. After our DD2, WW's breasts just went away. We are not sure where they went but she was very self-conscious about them and wanted to be able to put on clothes without duct tape aids. What I know about them is that they are expensive, can possibly reduce your sexual pleasure (did not in WW's case), they are not "for life" so it is a surgery that gets repeated so you will go through that pain multiple times. My WW got silicone because that is what every one of the doctors we visited recommended. Supposedly it is "new and improved" silicone that gels up if it leaks and they are double bagged, etc. She got them above the muscle rather than below and, for about a year, they felt like water balloons. After about two years they started to feel "natural" again. Since she did not get large implants, they look very well proportioned to her body. The only obvious clue that they are fake is that they clearly defy gravity.

Personally I wish she hadn't done it. I can see her point. She cares very much how she looks in her clothes. She was laid up in bed for 4 to 6 weeks. If she had gotten out of bed and been more active, I think she would have recovered more quickly.

My sister got silicone implants when they were a new thing. She pumped herself up to a 34A. Imagine that. This was about 30 years ago and they are as hard as rocks. And unfortunately she is a "hugger". They leave bruises if she hasn't seen you in a while and really missed you. Ouch!

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Nothing wrong with em'. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

but go behind the muscle.

and get a darn good surgeon.

it is painful...

but if done correctly, worth it...

make sure size is appropriate as well as shape. research extensively. some, the newer ones...can last a lifetime if placed appropriately and surgeon is awesome and it's NOT IN FRONT OF THE MUSCLE...to many screw ups there and also dimpling and problems...according to my sources, most strippers go for the above the muscle b/c it's cheaper, and less downtime...some women do that b/c it's less downtime...but hey..if you do something do it right...go for behind the muscle.

and to think....a WS paid for them(during his affairs) to look incredible just so somebody(his cool stbxw) could become single.....barely even got to see em....not long anyway. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

he he he...a "certain" WS actually paid for a very very cool BS to get this done after breastfeeding shrunk her girls...and the BS felt and looked incredible! Then two years later they divorce...and the xw is a hot single chick with new girls! and happy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> the sad and forelorn XWS didn't get much "hands on" experience at all..barely got to see em'. Poor stupid XWS.


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I'll throw in my 2 cents. I've had implants for 30 years, and have never had a problem. They look and feel completely natural - they are under the muscle, Peachy. I even breast fed my 2 boys for 3 years each.

None of my men have ever noticed. At least they didn't say anything. And so far, they are lasting just fine.

Years ago, I was "out" for an operation. When I woke up, all the nurses told me how nice they were. (I had listed them on pre-surgery questionnaire). It made me feel a bit funny.

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I find this link disturbing and yet, I think it would solve a lot of problems. I really think that men who want breast implants should have them. The Breast Years of His Life

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Haha Fraulein - That was a GREAT one!!!!!

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I think that breast implants are just plain stupid. Women have been snookered into many ridiculous things... walking on stilts (you call them heels)... make up and putting water balloons in your chests. I think a natural woman is beautiful. Any man that doesn't has something wrong with him!
And I am a man.

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Wow, you all are great! I was strongly considering getting this done as a surprise to him while he was overseas. I still haven't ruled it out (getting it done later), but I realize this bears much more thought. Time is on my side.


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If you're concerned about the look of an aging breast rather than size...

Why not consider a breast-lift instead?

Like Dorry, I had a breast reducution a couple of years ago. It was the best thing I EVER did and it *did* improve my self-confidence and the way I look pleases me more. My husband at the time was very supportive. It was a BRUTAL surgery--much worse than any implant surgery but so so worth it. With the reduction, you get kind of an automatic lift.

I am 35 and can go braless. I can wear spaghetti-strap tanks, do not have to get different sized tops and bottoms for my bathing suits. I can buy a shirt where the sleeves aren't three inches too long now. I can buy a dress that fits everywhere!

A breast lift would be simpler, I would think, than an implant--and may suit what *YOU* are looking for rather than an implant.

Whichever way--i concur with others...it's fine to consider the needs/wants of your husband but do not permanently alter your body unless it's something *you* want to do for yourself!


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