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Ditto what Jo said - my thoughts exactly!
Something else they might be up to, now that she is jobless, is her grabbing your DD and taking her with her to OM's and staying there, making your custody fight more difficult. If I remember correctly, you have a Separation Agreement in place that spells out custody while the D is proceeding - yes? If so, she may be naively thinking its unenforceable if she takes DD to another state.....teeheehee because, Oh yeah, the will!!!!
BE VERY CAREFUL.....
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Thanks for the input all. My guard is up...it is always up now, that is why I've been reading her email!
Jo, the thought about her playing games with me on suspicion that I'm reading the email crossed my mind as well. I will not be confronting her and giving away my little secret information source.
Also, now that I've had more time to ponder the email, I think this is a custody thing. I think that she wants to earn more of OM's pity...she's going to have the fake custody battle happen, then when she "loses" custody (when in reality she is giving it to me) he will feel bad for her and be that much more committed to her, because she will need him.
Just a theory, until either me or my lawyer can find out more.
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Did your attorney gather the information for custody evidence regarding WHY your wife was terminated from her job. Did she call your wife's former employer? And if not, why?
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I think that she wants to earn more of OM's pity...she's going to have the fake custody battle happen, then when she "loses" custody (when in reality she is giving it to me) he will feel bad for her and be that much more committed to her, because she will need him.
Just a theory, until either me or my lawyer can find out more. That may very well be the case, BUT in case its not you need to continue to do everything you can to be fully armed for this war. You may not need the weapons, but you should have them ready if/when the time comes. Do not trust anything she has agreed to with you outside of what has been legally documented and endorsed. Jo
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Agreed! Also, I just read an interesting email...apparently he is talking to him mother about WW, and his mom wants to meet her...I'm wondering if a little exposure time has presented itself.
To be honest though, I just want her gone, so I would be exposing just to be vindictive...it sure would feel great!
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Have you installed a key logger on the home system she is using to email on? It would be worth the time to install one, esp since she has so much time on her hands being unemployed and all.
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I just thought of that this morning!
Planning on doing that as soon as I get the chance.
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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Don't get caught! And don't let her find important stuff of yours dammit, like MB posts. Stay vigilent.
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One scenario could be OM is telling WW that he would like to have the kids so he is faking being a father figure what he is really doing is keeping her fantasy alive that he (OM) is better than you. I am in a sitch right now that OM has his own kids wants WW says nice things about our kids and how when she moves up to NY (yeah right like I would let that happen) that his kids and our kids will be great together... but in reality he wants to keep feeding her crap to keep her in the fog
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GoodFather,
How is everything? Give us an update.
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Things are going well, thanks for asking!
WW has moved to VA to live with OM. DD is in the family home with me, and WW has agreed to assume 70% of all the debt.
As soon as we can come to a final agreement, our lawyers can go into the courthouse and have the D finalized.
WW has been gone for almost two weeks now. She is still doing fairly well talking to DD on the phone, to be honest I thought it would have died down by now.
She has also found a job out there, and will be starting on Tuesday, thank goodness, because little did I know that she hadn't paid most of our bills since May, so I've been pinching every penny trying to get caught up on the utilities and mortgage. She will now be able to pay child support, and I will not have to stress so much about money.
So that's about that! I'm not officially in plan B yet, but I'm close. I'd like to get the financials all straightened out before I go completely dark. It's nice, I'll go a day or more without talking to her and I feel so relaxed that I actually dread needing to talk to her about something.
Me/BS = 28
WW =33
DD = 5
Found out about EA/PA = 4/07/06
WW moved to Virginia to be with OM = 8/21/06
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MAY? She let the bills lapse 3 MONTHS??? I thought you were monitoring the bills because you knew you couldn't trust her to do it.
There ya go, she was trying to destroy one last thing before she left, your ability to survive with your daughter.
But ha ha on her. Thank God she failed.
Along with her first CS payment GF, make her (via attorney) pay the 3 mos lapse in bill payments that you had to cough up. Grrrrr!
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GF:
You out there?
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I just spoke to Good Father today. He said I could share our conversation. I would consider him a huge success! He has not backed down on his boundaries and "manned up" in a super positive way. WW is living with OM and came home to T-Day. She wanted GF to hold off on the D. He said NO!. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Then on the way to taking her back to the airport, she kept taking the OM's multitude of calls. (Comment: Gee I guess OM doesn't trust WW, huh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />) I don't know if you remember when WW set GF up by doing the same thing. And then when he requested that she take the call outside, she called the police to escort him out of his home and put a RO in place? Well this time he was driving and very calmly asked her to NOT speak with OM in his presence. She relayed the info to OM but did not get off the phone. So, he very calmly stopped the car by a police car, took her luggage out of his car and left her at the side of the road. She has continued to call him from the OM's house and act like they should be all friends now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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D final Dec31/07
Long hard road & at peace now
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"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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Then on the way to taking her back to the airport, she kept taking the OM's multitude of calls. (Comment: Gee I guess OM doesn't trust WW, huh? )
I don't know if you remember when WW set GF up by doing the same thing. And then when he requested that she take the call outside, she called the police to escort him out of his home and put a RO in place?
Well this time he was driving and very calmly asked her to NOT speak with OM in his presence. She relayed the info to OM but did not get off the phone. So, he very calmly stopped the car by a police car, took her luggage out of his car and left her at the side of the road. I am so proud of him! Gawd I just love this. I re-read it 4 times. Wonderful.
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That would be worth a few bucks admission 2 have been at the curb when the dropoff occurred.
Why is he talking 2 her while she's at the OM's, though?
-ol' 2long
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PRICELESS!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I love that!!! GF, you are the man! That one will go down in MB history!
Your wife will wake up one day and wonder what happened. Of course, it will be much later after she has lost everything. Something messed up when a woman gives up her child to be with another man. Believe me, I have one of those!!
Anyway, I love the way you handled this!
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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