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When I first got here, Dec 03, I thought I was FinallyLearning and so that is what i choose as my name. I came to realize I had not even begun to learn all I needed to learn. But by posting here and taking to heart responses given, I really did start to finally learn. In Dec 04, I became FinallyLearning-T2M. And Autumn_Day quickly figured out T2M meant Time to Mature. See " the next level". In Feb 04, I tried to become a ghost, FLsGhost... a bit of a goodbye But i still kept coming back to read and post occasionally. I realized I am still searching a bit. Perhaps Pep has recently shown me the right path. I'm not sure. Right now all I am doing is staring at that path wondering how to start walking down it. In anycase, I decided i needed a new name again. FinallyLrningT2H (it seems as though there is a new limit on the length of the name FinallyLearning-T2H didn't fit). T2H = time to heal. I've learned. I've mature. But I believe I am doing things that are keeping me from really healing. Got to name it to claim it. So here is my new name. So what is the importance of your name? Is it a positive one or negative one? Did you know you can change it by going into your profile. Your signin name does not change but you can change your display name. If you have a neg display name, I encourage you to change it. My favorite was when "only words", sometimes shortened to OW (YUCK!!!), changed to " not only words". NOW that is a good name <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> See: Idiotville
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FinallyLrningT2H,
You said: [color:"blue"] But I believe I am doing things that are keeping me from really healing.[/color]
Can you elaborate on what you think those things you are doing are?
What are the things that you think you are not doing?
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Hello, thank you for your insight about your name change.
Last night, I chose to change mine. I was known as NeedingComfort, because when I first arrived that's was I was looking for. I was engulfed with the pain and hurt of the knowledge about my H's A.
Since that time, I have had amazing mentors, some of whom I don't talk with as much. I miss them nevertheless! Each person helps you awaken from your slumber!
I chose my new name because of how Cinderella started out. I felt for so many yrs. that I was a martyr in my own home. Well, I'm chosing not to be the martyr. I'm chosing to become the elegant, beautiful person that's been hidden inside for so many years. I've found my prince charming, but I have to unlock myself from the prison that I've chose to put myself in. My goal is to live happily ever after in my new life with my prince charming.
Take care and have a great day!
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Oh sure..you have to be all DEEP about it [sticks tongue out].
I tried a few variation of my actual name..but being extremely common it was a no go.
I happened to be eating noodles at the time..thought..now there's a word I can remember [not like some crazy making collection of numbers and letters all squished together] and it isn't used very much..I'll give it a go.
It worked. Good thing too because failing that I was thinking of "shoe".
Would you believe I once had a doll named doll?
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LOL, noodle...we won't hold that against you for too long...LOL
I happen to love your name, and I happen to eat a lot of noodles too! LOL
Sorry about being so in depth! LOL
take care!
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Geeze, FL, and they accuse you of being too intense?? Go figure! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
Smart Cookie = a brand of lip balm.
I have the raspberry flavor.
Main ingredient: Occtyl Methoxycinnamate.
Non-petroleum.
Made in China.
Need I say more?
"I require more from my spouse than behaving well in order to avoid pain." (guess who)
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{{{{{{{{{FLT2H}}}}}}}}}}} WOW... I only check in here @ GQ in spurts. I go for weeks at a time of not stopping by, and then I pop in sometimes for several days in a row. So glad I stopped today, or I may've missed you! I recall that Ghost name, but never knew that was you! Gosh girl, you never better get yourself a tattoo... you get too bored w/ things too quickly.... j/k, j/k... I'm hearing you on the name changes. I've always wanted to change mine, but not because it has negative connotations... but because it sounds like a stripper's name, lol. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> I miss you and think of you often. Especially everytime we drove through Chi taking dd to college. I'm looking forward to hearing more of how you're doing. Hugs, ~ad
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Good for you lady! What does Hubby think of the new found you? Has he shown more interest to the site yet? We started reading His Needs Her needs for parents by Harley of course and it is quite interesting reading. It really takes into consideration your kids when it comes to the relationship. Have you read it? Talk to you soon! 7142 P.S. Saw your pic on the MB pic site! Wow!! You do not look a day over 25. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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2 girls 8 and 3
Married Aug 4,1995
Together 15
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7142-thanks soooo much for the compliment! Greatly appreciated! I'll copy and paste to my thread to response, so we don't TJ.
AD- LOL I don't think it sounds like a stipper's name...thought...it could be one! LOL have a great day!
Smartcookie- So, you must be very taste, a raspberry cookie, which can be used for the purpose of lipbalm. Amazing what they come out with today! LOL
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ohhhhh, 7142 was talking to rindella!!!! cuz i don't have a pic in the book <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> the rest of my reply has to wait till a bit later.... darn work!
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Sorry about that FL. And any reason why you don't have a pic?
I have to pick a little today, everyone needs a smile from time to time! LOL
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My original name on MB was Yesterday one of my favorite Beatles songs ... (Lennon/McCartney)
Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away
Now it looks as though they're here to stay
Oh, I believe in yesterday
Suddenly, I'm not half the man I used to be
There's a shadow hanging over me.
Oh, yesterday came suddenly
Why she had to go I don't know she wouldn't say
I said something wrong, now I long for yesterday
Yesterday, love was such an easy game to play
Now I need a place to hide away
Oh, I believe in yesterday
Why she had to go I don't know she wouldn't say
I said something wrong, now I long for yesterday
Yesterday, love was such an easy game to play
Now I need a place to hide away
Oh, I believe in yesterday
Mm mm mm mm mm mm mm
but it was too sad a song for me to keep as my name staying true to my Beatlemania pepperband was born 1967 the year Sgt. Pepper was released .... I was just blooming into womanhood .... and MB is a place for lonely hearts to dance .... now I'm just making stuff up <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> to hear myself talk LOL Pep
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Well this is so deep.
When I started I was yearsofhurt. The reason being is my FWW had spent a very long time hurting me after the A. It was years.
One day I realized that that name took away my power. I could be hurting for years and years.
One day I looked up and realized that I am starting to hurt less and less so I changed my name.
I could have changed it back a few months ago when my FWW practiced a little more radical honesty that nearly squeezed the last bit of love I had for her right out of my heart.
But still today I am hurting less because I have the power to change me so I don't keep hurting for years and years.
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3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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My name was a result of why I came to MB.
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i am enjoying this, thanks to all that are sharing. Plank, well, I don't have much time right now to do your questions justice nor do i really have any good answers actually. I have been reading about attachment disorder. Basically i see how i sabatoge myself a lot. Only allowing myself to get so close and then doing something to mess it up. i think internally i get too uncomfortable. that is probably the best i can do right now. noddle - i love how un-deep your reason is!!! lol rinderella - good name change <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> i have not shared a pic because DH is not comfortable with that concept. HI SC!!!!! always love to hear from you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Autumn_Day, WOW!!! i am so glad you saw this and posted. And I hope you see my response. I think of you occasionally. I think I have tried your email, it's probably been a while, but didn't hear back from you. Have you abandoned that email? ok, i just tried it again. respond back if you can. so DD is at college by me, that is so cool. i still think we should do as JL suggested and have lunch or something sometime!!! i'm pretty sure by now we have determined neither one of us is a serial killer or anything, right?? lol although i also understand if that is not a comfortable idea. cuz truth be told i would have to figure out if it would be a comfortable idea for DH before i could. hows the little one?? Hi 7142, any deep meaning attached to your name??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Hi pep, I like the song yesterday too but i agree, too sad to hang on to forever. pepperband was definitely a good new choice! hurtingless, i like your change too but i look forward to you changing it again to something like "NoMoreHurt". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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ohhh, one more... mywifeilove, that is very very nice. I am sorry your wife choose OM. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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I think of you occasionally. Only occasionally? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> so DD is at college by me, that is so cool. Not by you, but I think you're kinda sorta on the way. That is when *I* drive. H otoh, takes the Skyway. i still think we should do as JL suggested and have lunch or something sometime!!! i'm pretty sure by now we have determined neither one of us is a serial killer or anything, right?? lol Right! I hope so anyway, otherwise that would be the 1st time known to man that JL gave some lousy a$$ advice, hey? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> An absolute delight! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> (I'll have to email you a pic or 2) Again... So great to hear from you.
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Boy that would be a nice name change. NoMoreHurt sounds good.
Any idea how to get me there?
The only thing I can think of now is for Will Smith and Tommy Lee Jones walking up to my door with those Raybans and that lightstick and erasing the last 3 years. LOL.
If we could arrange that I would be really happy. LOL. Come to think about it I would still be hurting less better set it to the last 7 years.
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HL- if you believe it, it will come! LOL
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FLT2H,
Well, you've just pointed out that I need to update my sig. line!! FWW, is very much choosing ME now! Check in the last few pages of my thread....Plan A can and will work!!
Still a long ways off, but check some of my earliest posts back in Nov. and then now.....A's break down when light is shown on them!!
Godspeed to you!
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