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FF - way to go!!

MF is going to boot camp!!! don't worry MF you will do great.

well, I have not lost anymore, nor have i gained any back.

my exercise is great, my food is inconsistent.

it's clear i'm not going to do this before anniversary... only 28 days.

Hi Kimmy, Hi JJ.

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Where have you been young lady. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

28 days is plenty of time to still get er done, btw.


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I believe 28 days will allow you to see great progess. What can we do to help?

Want to post your food intake so you will be more accountable and less likely to eat poorly?

I have not lost anymore.

Have any of you heard about t-tapp? There is a website with some of the exercises on it where you can try before you buy. You are supposed to lose inches in 10 days. Might be worth a shot.

have a great day

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Perfectly round indeed! And not in the places where round is usually attractive, either.

I -did- record what I ate yesterday and today and I -am- drinking water today. Yesterday I went for a walk. I've taken so many of these baby steps in the last year. And yet I'm not consistent with them and I don't -really- exercise, so the trend is upward rather than down.

Frustration? Me? *sigh*

I'll keep trudging along, though.

Time to refill the water bottle.


Sunny Day, Sweeping The Clouds Away...

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FF, i'm here, dazed and confused as usual.

MF - post my food intake here?? like the fact that i am eating cookies right now with a cup of hot chocolate? while i am counting down the minutes to when the cafe opens so i can get lunch.

i'm so stressed right now, work and home life is not balancing out lately at all. i'm trying to take all this time off because that is what DH and the kids want and i try to work from home on other days but it just seems like the more i do that the more they want me there and the more they complain when i'm not.

i mean i love that they all want me there. but i don't want them to be unhappy just cuz mom's at work. it can't be all up to me!!!

and the thing is i would LOVE to be there everyday. but someone has to bring home a paycheck!! kwim?

my DH greatest concern is when he will golf next. he told me he recoginized he has golfed a lot lately and that it was going to slow down, but then last night he decides to golf this morning. i had to be in early, DS has to be at a park at 9am for a soccer camp. he had to get himself up, fed and to the park on his own, he is 12. ok, when i was told last night that is what the plan was i said fine. and it did work out. but it does actually bug me some. although i think the real reason it bugs me is because if roles were reversed and i was the one choosing to do a recreational activity that forced DS to get up and out on his own, DH would not stand for it. but it's ok if he does it.

and now he tells me friday he has another golf date which is going to interfere with a family plan. on this one i told him that it would be better if he adjusted and he did say he would try. but...

1. why am i having to say that? i don't like having to be the one to say these things. i don't like being put into this spot. he should see it for himself. he is being selfish.

2. what happened to golf slowing down this week?

the kids are not as happy when i am not home cuz dad does not do stuff with them!!!

this post is so full of DJs i can't even begin to count them.

but it was nice kinda nice to say it all to someone.

more and more i feel nothing, absolutely nothing.

my desire for SF is 0%. I don't like it being 0%, i'm really missng having any desire, but what's the point, who cares.

i really think i should stop now...

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Geeeeeez, FLT2H, no wonder you're eating cookies and having hot chocolate. *hug*

Now, can I make a suggestion? Take a minute and sit back and notice whether your body feels even one iota better for having done that.

Really notice how every bit of you feels, from your tongue to your stomach to your arms and legs to your toenails. How's it going in there?

(I don't do this. I -should-, but I don't. I eat the chocolate, same as the rest of us. :P)


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not good.

stomach is extremely anxious!!!

tongue feels slightly burnt (i drank HC too fast).

i have a small headache.

my toenails are fine.

overall slugish and tired.

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well, i guess i have not done too much damage today.

breakfast was ok, a bagle with a small amount of cream cheese. tommorow i'll go back to cheerios (my normal breakfast).

i had those 4(?) cookies (fudge striped) with a cup of hot chocolate. those are on the bad list.

i had an ok lunch, turkey sandwich on a roll.

i had a bag of microwave popcorn (BUT i only did that as an alternative to stopping at McDonalds and having the double cheeseburger and fries that i was thinking of having!!!)

provided i don't eat all evening, today will not be a complete bust.

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(((FL)))
I am confused. I dont know you that well. so I don't know this-does your husband not work?

I know what a struggle it is to have the desire to be at home and not be able to.

Have you talked to your husband about this? I wonder if you are getting your EN's met? Maybe it is time to re-do the survey with your husband. Hang in there.

I was offered a job last week- at my dd's school. I do not have a peace about it- probably because I quit one of my part time jobs so I could start a photo biz. Now, I am so confused about it. The teacher who had the class for at least 2 years may want it back (long story). She called today and want me to do it for 6 weeks- well if I do that, will I want to quit after the 6 weeks? And my teaching style is very diferent- will it be too hard for the kids to adjust to a different teacher?

I hate not having a real peace about something.

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{{FL}} Call me, I am always available you KNOW that! As for the golf, well hmm.. seems like you two need to reach a compromise. Say 2x's per week?


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You guys (gals) are so inspirational. I keep reading about your progress and hope to someday join your ranks. I even got a ticker back when you started, alas, it has not moved. D-day #2 has proven to be disasterous to the workout schedule. I haven't done ANY workout at all since D-day #2 (July 29?) which is probably the longest I've ever gone without a serious workout since the DS5 was born.

Anyway, hope you don't mind me lurking...it's nice to see others reaching their goals, even if I don't. (She says, reaching for a chocolate chip cookie...)

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my post was no longer valid!!!

I'm ticked now!!!!!

i don't have time to re write it all..

ok here is the short version.

MF, DH does not have day job he freelances but jobs tend to be far apart at times. his business does pay for his car and car expenses and for cell phones so it does help in that way. we live off of my salary. once (or twice) a year we will take out a lump sum. that amount can vary, it does not tend to be extremly significant but it certainly helps. having him be home for the kids is a great perk.

i want to be a teacher, i almost switched careers 3 yrs ago but due to finances i choose not to. as much as i try to embrace that choice, i'm just not happy at my job.

i still hope to become a teacher, my new thought is to do so in 7 yrs from now, when i turn 50. i want to teach math at the jr high or HS level. what do you teach?

FF, i wont lose the entire amount in time but i can certainly lose another 10lbs at least.

JJ, in reviewing how i've been feeling i decided you are wise. it is in my power to physically feel better. i packed my lunch today, it includes nothing but yummy and healthy foods.

stonecold, welcome!! you are certainly welcome to lurk but you might be better off totally joining in. just put down the cookie!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Hey FL,
when it says no longer valid, just hit the back button- then put your curser in the body of the text- hit ctrl a, ctrl c and then go back to the page you were trying to post to- hit refresh, then put your curser in the reply box and hit ctrl v

you won't have to retype.

You are a BRAVE woman to want to teach JH or HS. I am not a ceritfied teacher. My DD goes to a homeschool type school. I have taught Kindergarten and also been a tutor and a sub teacher in public school. This would be for a class of 8 kids grades 1-3. Several are Learning Disabled. My DD is learning disabled so I have that knowledge as well.

Just hate this feeling of limbo.

I really want to be a phtographer. But I really don't want to leave kids without a teacher, either. And the pay is next to nothing so it is not like anyone is going to be beating down the door to take the class.

I am such a people pleaser I think that is why I have such an issue with it.

oh well, going to just keep praying about it.

You guys really all ought to go check out the t-tapp pages. I am really feeling it- I should have measured, I swear I see a difference after 2 days. Wishful thinking?

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Jr High math?

Are you high?

Def. a better gal than I am. When my 16 year old was in jr. high it was all I could do to restrain myself from stringing him up and beating him like a pinata. I could only IMAGINE a room fulla the hormonal slaves...

I've a trip to the coast at the end of Sept. I wanna reach my goal by then....think I will?

I dunno.

Slimfast for b-fast and lunch again today.

I'm already heartily tired of chocolate flavored chalk drinks.

- Kimmy


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De, get the orange/pineapple. Mucho better than chalky chocolate! shh...don't tell Jelly!


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what a LONG DAY!!!

mf, i want to be a teacher, my DH is a photographer.... ironic huh? i looked at the t-tapp pages, i'm going to try some of it in the morning, thanks.

yes kimmy, i am a sicko, i want to be around those weird creatures called teenagers. actually i am leaning more and more toward jr high, because that is the place the kids start to get too lost.

this is the reason, i really like math and i know how gratifing it is to "get it" and i've seen how hard it is on those that don't. and i think i am good at helping others "get it".

i've done very good today.

thanks for helping me get back on track.

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what a day.

DH had to work late so I took work and went up there til 11 last night- then it was after midnight before we went to sleep and then he woke me up early.

Water aerobics was a killer today

then I come home and before I could even get in the shower, got a call and I had to hurry out to magazine.

my mom ticked me off and made me cry.

I honestly do not know what is wrong- I feel PMSy and I am not equipped for that any more since my surgery in april.

I didn't get to eat breakfast because I went to the magazine office.

I did ok at lunch then I ate a bowl of frosted flakes- generic ones- they did not taste as good as I wanted them to.

I don't even know what I want to vent about- I just want to vent, I guess. not sure it helped.

When dh left after lunch he told me to get in a better mood. like I don't want to?

When I weighed this morning I had gained. Not sure why. I have done really well. Can't be that time of the month.

Oh, well I look better. I guess I should look at that instead of the pounds.

ok vent over

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MF - when you are made up of mostly water, you've got to expect that the lunar pull is gonna work on ya....

Even if you had the plumbing adjusted.

Have a super weekend and don't dwell on any of today!

Okay?

Love,
Kimmy


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thanks Kimmy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Hey all,
I guess I am over mypity party. Part of my problem has been that my car has been undrivable since may. We have not had the money to get it fxed. The plan had been to buy me a new car this summer and give my old car to my son. He has been driving an old truck with over 300,000 miles on it. But, it breaking down sort of rind that.

My husband's car has only 2 seats (MLF Crisis car, went rigt along with that affair he was having, ya know?) There are 4 of us so anywhere we went as a family we had to take 2 cars.

We would hopefully have had enough money in September, if we did not have to pay for college <sigh>

so, yesterday morning, dh told me were going to have to just trade my car in for a new one. That would leave my son still driving the old truck. I knew it was the best idea, and I agreed but I was still not happy about the situation.

Anyway, last night we went to look at cars. We ended up getting 2 cars- a 2004 for me and a 2005 for my son for just a little over what we had been paying for my old car until June. My son is going to pay the difference.

I feel so much more relieved. I no longer have huge car repair expense looming. We can all go together in the sae car, and my son has reliable transportation to and from college.

Just want to let you know I feel better. And I think I might have lost those 2 pounds it looked as if I had gained.

have a great day- I have a very busy one ahead.

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