FWH How dare you call her easy - we held off on sex until the first date and them we had the decency not to go to an hotel ... So we did what we did on the canal path - we had to, there was a bunch of teenagers watching us .....


I will never be attracted to you as I am to them ...THEM???

She is petite I feel I can control her easily and she is very pretty ...

Of course I want sex with you - I just haven't done it yet - (less than twice a year)

AND the humdinger ....


Why did you give Charlie my porn when I told you to? I wanted to tell him all about them, make sure they went to a good home ....

SP

Oh i forgot ...

H. You want me dead - you do don't you? yes You do.

Me. I have never said that, thought that or anything like that...

H. Oh yes now I remember it is me who wants you dead...

Also

I cannot be fluent when I say nice things to you - I can't get them out, the words won't run together.

I can only be eloquent when I am saying hateful things to you or about you.

SP

SP ouch.........whats your stich now?

If you search on me and then go to Recovery thread about passive agressive you will see it - don't want to thread hijack.

If you have questions, then I will make a thread to answer.

Linda

craziest thing: "you are not in the same understanding circle as the OM. you dont understand him."

"If you forgive what he did why are you still angry that he calls now?"

"if you were just being a man now (ouch) and mix a little of real world with your "good world" then we wouldnt be in this situation now."

heard anything similar?

oh now that we are in MC.

Well I am still very upset he had me arrested after I hit him. I don't know if I will ever forgive him for that. It was horrible, I was so hurt and humiliated.

Then she threw in something like "probably like he feels about my A."

I guess we are even now. I had you arrested for domestic abuse, that you admitted too. Which hurt and humiliated you and you had an A which hurt and humiliated me.

Try not to fall on the ground laughing at that statement.

Even the MC had a tough time digesting that info. LOL.

LMAO.............HAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!(breathe...i gotta breathe) gulping air....LMAO!
award to HL for craziest statement by WS

Yeah for me. I am the big wiener!!!!!

wiener...hah!
good one HL

"I haven't been praying about this (divorce) because I know God doesn't want this but I want this."

"I am not a phone person." (Our cell phone records proved otherwise. OW's number appeared plenty of times throughout the weekend.)

As we walked through an electronics store, we passed the section where adult magazines and movies were displayed, WH commented with disgust, "I can't believe those men are looking at that stuff on their lunch breaks!" (Hmmm, as if taking the OW to a hotel on your lunch break is acceptable?) I was speechless.

xWH: "We had so much in common...........OW loves redwine and OW loves milk"

xWH: "OW doesn't understand why you have discussions with the kids, she'd be alot more "easier-going" than you are and she knows how to get along with children without stress!!!

(OW doesn't have children and she got operated 2 years after getting married so that she never will........when OWH married her, they agreed to have children.

xWH: OW dislikes cats like I do!!!
(OW had 13 cats of her own) ????? duh.............

xWH: OW saves all of her money and never spends it unwisely!
(OW didn't go to work, she was a "Stay at home Wife" and OWH worked like crazy to bring in the $$$$ in order to maintain their high life standard)

xWH: OW did EVERYTHING for ME!
(They only met 1-2 times a week and otherwise they talked on the phone) duh..............I was home, running the business, caring for the children, organizing things for our new house, shopping, household and and and)

Almost 6 years later, my husband cannot believe that he said these things............he sees how "Fogged up" he was at that time of his life, because NOTHING makes sence to him now.

bb

Just a ?: do they ever recall the stupid stuff they said? Or do they have to be told what they said?

Here's a few:

"Millions of couples divorce and they handle it fine."

"I did not committ adultery. There was no penetration." (he perfromed oral sf on her)

"You act older than you are." (because I have no desire to go clubbing and would rather be home with kids)

"You wanted me to be a little military wife that only hung out with other military wives." (not really, but kind of a given that you're a military wife when you marry an AF pilot)

"My dad said he would work three jobs if he needed to in order to provide for his kids. Get a second job." I make 90k a year and am struggling with CS. She makes 2k a month. Who should have second job?

There's tons more.

"You are too controlling"


(Married OM told EXW that no other man is allowed inside her home, or he will stop coming over to see her)

EXW said she was OK with that.


WTF????

my husband remembers "most" of the things he said... even though we hardly talk about that stuff anymore, he feels like a complete "Goof". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

He can't believe that this was "reality" for him at that time of his life and he can't believe that he didn't question anything that xOW told him.

So many things that were said are indeed so stupid, the only thing a person can do, is "forget" them, they are just too embarrasing.

6 years later...............no need to remind him anymore and no need to even think about them. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

bb

How do they all manage to independantly come up with the same delusions?

"He has ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR ME!" - ditto, word for word

"Imagine DS coming over 2 houses; getting 2 of everything" - not quite wfw but, "DS will be happier because she'll have two of everything and two HAPPY FAMILIES" - all DS needs or wants is one family together - she's only 3 but she knows that for herself!

I'm not sure I like this thread anymore, all the ridiculous things WW has said keep popping back into my head.

Latest recollection from deep in the fog, "Life is short, I don't want to look back and regret staying in a bad relationship." and "This is my chance, I don't want to look back and regret not going for it."

EA started 18m-2yrs ago, PA 10m ago, D and E 9m ago but A still dragging on, fog as thick as ever.

"One of the things I love about OW is her devotion to her family." She's unmarried, but how could she be so family-centric, yet want to destroy mine?

Here's a new one. Just a few days ago - We were in a store and he saw a pendant I would like, suggested I try it on, and then said ...

"I love it on you, you must have it for your birthday. Oh it won't be a surprise on your birthday .... Oh I know what would be a really funny surprise -- is if you think I have bought it and then you find out on your birthday that I haven't!" Giggle giggle giggle...

He couldn't understand why I walked away, the sales girl choked, our friend out with us, about ran away to "look at something" the other end of the store ...

Then he said, in a hurt voice as if HE had been snubbed, "I thought I was funny - what's the deal?"

SP

Ok, I have a good one... I was talking with my wife recently and mentioned how she told me on many different occassions about how much she loved her life. We once fell asleep in each other's arms and she commented the next morning how it was wonderful falling asleep in her husbands arms.

She responded, "Oh, it must have been a 'false feeling'..."

WTF is a "false feeling"???

I didn't comment because I had no idea what to say...