Thanks all! I'm putting fresh batteries in the ol recorder, too. Its a small town, and WH is high profile in local politics. It would be a nightmare for him if he gets hauled off by one of our 5 cops. We all know everyone here, so it's going to be a mess no matter what.

I'm still worried about DD9, and want to get her in to see a counselor asap. She's very sensitive, and this is breaking her heart.

I did like starfish said, and explained that daddy is married, and married men can't have girlfriends.

Give your dd a hug for me....

My dd just turned 10...I could cry for your girl....okay...I am crying for her.

The WS isn't worried about the shame and pressure he is bringing to his family....so don't hold back on calling in a distress call if needed. It won't be the 1st time a prominent citizen of the community gets hauled off because of a D V issue.

Now he could get his pix in the paper like that Peter Cook guy.....think that w/b better?

L.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I kinda think it wouldn't hurt to call the police right now and tell them you're a pretty worried about his reation and could they just pass in front of the house tonight a couple of times. It's not a bad thang to have on "file".

ditto what Star just said !

This is a very volatile situation. It could get ugly fast and the kids don't need to see it. I think a call to the police to be there until he gets his things out would be best for everyone in this situation. Why take a chance?

Maybe since it is summer, the kids could go visit with your Dad?

Lawyer, tomorrow 11am. Best attorney in the whole area...personal friend since I was a little girl.

Got several "lifelines" in place, in case I need em. Any minute now, he's gonna show up.

BTW, you'll think this one is funny, on his phone calls, trying to figure out what I'm doing, he says, "we have been talking about divorce, and I SAID I was gonna date other people, and so get over yourself."

I asked him where it was agreed that he would take the kids to disney with his girlfriend. Calm, deep breathing exercises.

>we have been talking about divorce, and I SAID I was gonna date other people, and so get over yourself."

How much money you wanna lay that SHE was standing right there when he said it.

It was for her benefit, not yours...he's still trying to have his cake.

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Just remember he got himself into this mess and he's got to get himself out of it. So expect the WS to start squirming and threatening more crap.

Btw it's ok if he reads this also. I let mine see my MB stuff because expose deflates the hot air out of the WS. Pretty good tool eh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

take care,
L.

haha, never thought of that, but yes, she was right there, since they are riding in the car back from miami together.

Still no sign of him. He must be trying to get his ducks in a row. Kids have been expecting him, and DD is still very upset. She wants to talk to dad about the whole thing, but he's too much of a coward to face her.

Good. You've got your little one's support. Don't hold her back. Reassure her that she can say what she needs to say to her dad.

Let her know you are there for her if she needs you.

L.

You know, with all the reading that WH did on this site, you'da thunk he'd remember fog speak.

He goes, "I can't believe you told DD9! You've destroyed her, and it's all your fault!"

All I wanted to do was throw something at him, but I didn't.

I'm exhausted. But he went back to the worthless BIL, maybe to go screw the little woman one more time before bed.

Now WH says he's going to spread all kinds of bad stuff about me, saying I beat the kids, I'm a drunk, I'm bipolar, and all kinds of lies, just to try to justify how miserable he was to go and start banging the little young thing all over again.

He is? Hm... imagine how that will sound:

Ws: My W beat my kids, is a drunk and bipolar. Isn't that horrible?

Real People: Yes that's horrible. Where are the children?

BS: With her. I left her because she is sooo bad.

Real People: Why? Weren't you the one who is having an A?

Ws: Yes but that shouldn't count?

Real People: Hm.....

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Let him try. Real People will see right through his babble but the stupid ones will believe the babble.

L.

Said he's going for full custody.
I'm so glad I'm meeting the lawyer tomorrow.

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It sounds like it's time to handle all communication with your H through your lawyer. You guys sound like you can't be civil to each other and it's going to upset you and make him more determined to cause trouble for you.

He's spouting a bunch of garbage. Oh brother, what a jerk... Like anyone is going to take a middle-aged guy seriously who is screwing a girl that age. Don't let him get to you. You've got to get a thick skin, disengage from him and not care what he says or what he threatens. What case has HE got for custody? You'll feel better after you talk to the lawyer tomorrow, but get your paperwork together as quickly as you can to protect yourself and your kids. Change the locks, since he might slink in at night after you or the kids are asleep.

I hope you have a good conference with your lawyer tomorrow.

Thanks all!
Yep, I think it's time to limit contact and use the lawyers. I'm just sick to my stomach when I think about the way he has brought this woman into our lives, and had barbeques and beach parties, and trips to Disney with my kids and her. All the while, my worthless BIL is acting as the beard.

It stuns me to hear him say it's MY fault DD is so upset. Why did I have to tell her, he asks. Huh? You're the one whose banging the 21 year old, and then you try to incorporate her into the kids' lives, and let the OW BABYSIT my kids while you come over and pick a fight. But it's all MY fault for telling DD that OW is NOT a friend.

DD has planned a sleepover party for next monday. She's been planning it all summer, and has made party favors, games, banners, and other stuff. She started planning the party the day school got out, and now school is about to go back in, so the party has to take place this coming week. She's so worried about it. I told her we are still going to have the party.

She's worried that WH and I will get in a fight in front of her friends. I'm trying to figure out if it's best to put on a happy face for a few hours, or if I should tell WH to get lost and I'll handle the party alone. I think DD wants us both there, but that's how kids are.

BTW, what are my rights, as far as locking him out of the house? He basically left because I threatened to make his life even more miserable, but he'll be back in the morning. What are my rights? Can he grab up the kids and take them out to a hotel or something? Furthermore, can I? I didn't expect this to go down like this, so I'm not well prepared.

Thanks again, all!

Do a complete background check on the OW. If he is allowing the OW to watch your children and you can prove she is on safe, then file for custody immediately. Of course work under the advice of your lawyer but don't assume the OW is a good person. Anyone, anyone who has an A is not good while having the A.

JMHO,
L.