Alright a simple refutation:

You are not without sin, ie beam is still in your eye. You really have nothing valid to say in judgement of other poeple as long as it is there.

you don't have the slightest idea what you are talking about and are not equipped for this discussion. I suggest you stick to your usual caliber with "intelligent" posts like: "BULLHOCKY!"

"you don't have the slightest idea what you are talking about and are not equipped for this discussion. I suggest you stick to your usual caliber with "intelligent" posts like: "BULLHOCKY"

If you say so.

Why don't we address the real issue here, Melody. You are so whipped up over your husband cheating on you still that someone who presented herself as a former OW became your whipping post. And naturally, anyone who stands up and make a valid point for not doing that based on your own claims of being a christian woman, immediately becomes an object of attack by you.

It happens over and over. I have watched you go at it at least a dozen times in the last year.

Which isn't to say your anger and pain are invalid. It is not fair nor kind to direct that kind of vitriol at people who are repentent and come for guidence and I submit that due to the volitilty and rage you are directing at such people it is YOU who is not suitable to discuss ANYTHING in this thread at all.

Why don't we address the real issue here, Melody. You are so whipped up over your husband cheating on you still that someone who presented herself as a former OW became your whipping post. And naturally, anyone who stands up and make a valid point for not doing that based on your own claims of being a christian woman, immediately becomes an object of attack by you.

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Lord...someone get the popcorn popping...

committed

In other words, you can't defend your idiotic points and have only proved my case that you haven't the slightest idea what you are blathering about.

Blackopal, the only person here I see spewing vitriol, rage and JUDGEMENT is you, dear. You don't have the slightest idea what you are blathering about and can't defend your inane points so you have turned to attack the messenger. I rest my case.

LOL C&L, is this what you are trying to say? <img src="/ubbt/images/grae...ns/grin.gif" alt="" /> FWIW, my money's on Melody! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

Hum….I’m “thinking” that I am confused!

WAT,


Actually, I do live in No Va. (Springfield) but I used to work in DC, then Crystal City, then Rosslyn….and now at Fort Belvoir.

Now for what it is worth. I have disclosed this information before here so it isn’t earthshattering.

I was a WS in my first marriage. I came to regret it and have the forgiveness of my XH. I waited many, many years before remarrying and only did so after my XH had remarried.

I waited, and looked into my own self until I felt very certain that I could be faithful and could honor marriage vows BEFORE I remarried. After years of dating FWH, I finally agreed to marry him.

And, I became a BS. Maybe I did deserve what I got, maybe not. If FWH had asked me, I could of told him that betraying the one you made promises to would haunt him. He never asked.

I have only recently came to believe that I guess that I am recovered, because I have finally resolved the hurt caused by FWH’s A. It doesn't interfere with my life anymore.

FWH, still has a way to go in forgiving himself and understanding that we are now living today and we should look to the future not the past.

I don’t know what the answer is for JJ. But I do know that as a person, she does deserve compassion for her pain. Just as I don’t think my FWH deserves the pain he still feels. He made a mistake, he is human. JJ made a mistake. I'd like to think that she understands that her affair was wrong. She can't undo it. I don't know her WH. Maybe he is incapable of being faithful. I dont' really feel that I can make that assessment of him. Certainly, we have members here on MB whose FWS had numerous affairs with several OP's, yet today, they are "former" WS. If they could change, why not JJ's WH. She gets no guarantee there, but in all honesty, I don't feel that I have one either.

But I have reached the point where I can accept that there really are no guarantees and I have finally reached the point where I actually feel it is better to be a FBS than a FWS.

Who

I am reminded of the old adage that: when the FACTS won't serve to defend your case, ATTACK THE MESSENGER. As if some imagined "pain" that I have is going to PROVE her silly assertions. Good grief.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

just what these boards needed... another assh0le.